"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Rate this chick out of ten
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
loveshogun
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I rate her at a solid 8. Her personality is stellar, though, so overall, she's gonna make some dude really happy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Hahaha, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't care what a bunch of guys on the internet think. She's a stand-up gal either way, I don't ask for many details about her personal life.zekko said:
Anyway, is the score you gave affected by that preconception?
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zekko
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I don't think so. 7.5 is actually pretty good from me.loveshogun said:
I'm pretty forgiving with women when rating them. As long as she's not a fatty, old looking, or her face isn't busted, I'm probably not going to give her a 4 or less. Most girls will likely get a 6 or 7 if they're decent.
But to get an 8 or more, the girl has to really be exceptional. I don't give 8s or 9s out lightly. And I don't believe in 10s at all. The highest rating I've ever given a girl is 9.2.
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I actually agree with you here.zekko said:
However, I do believe in 10s - a girl is never a 10 for more than a few hours, under the right light, doing the right thing, wearing the right thing.
Sometimes, when a girl who is a 9 is in the right circumstances, she puts you in that mode where you're literally ready to pounce.
That's the only time a girl is a 10, to me.
I can't think of a single 9 that I know, actually, because looking good by itself doesn't impress me anymore. A girl would have to look literally like something I'm imagining in my head.
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True. You don't have to look very hard to find women who are physically attractive. Because they are fairly common, and I've been with enough to know what it's like to be with a secksy lady, other traits get more importance. A really good looking woman to me is a 7. If she is smart, funny, can hold a conversation, and is a naughty girl in the bed she can get boosted up to an 8 or 9. If she is dull or boring and just has a sh!tty I expect the world attitude, she goes down to a 6.loveshogun said:
My rating scale takes too many things into factor to just say "oh yea, she's definitely an 8." I know many attractive women that I consider a 6.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.