I just did. Try to pay attention to the thread.omega05 said:how are you gonna tell someone else what they should rate a girl as?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I just did. Try to pay attention to the thread.omega05 said:how are you gonna tell someone else what they should rate a girl as?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
loveshogun said:This is a picture of one of my best wing women, who sadly has skipped town.
I rate her at a solid 8. Her personality is stellar, though, so overall, she's gonna make some dude really happy.
http://a1.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/189524_1766814007947_670691_n.jpg
I don't mean to insult your friend, but I get a strong slvt vibe from this one, for some reason. 7.5.loveshogun said:This is a picture of one of my best wing women, who sadly has skipped town.
I rate her at a solid 8. Her personality is stellar, though, so overall, she's gonna make some dude really happy.
http://a1.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/189524_1766814007947_670691_n.jpg
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hahaha, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't care what a bunch of guys on the internet think. She's a stand-up gal either way, I don't ask for many details about her personal life.zekko said:I don't mean to insult your friend, but I get a strong slvt vibe from this one, for some reason. 7.5.
lolzekko said:I don't mean to insult your friend, but I get a strong slvt vibe from this one, for some reason. 7.5.
I don't think so. 7.5 is actually pretty good from me.loveshogun said:Anyway, is the score you gave affected by that preconception?
I actually agree with you here.zekko said:I don't think so. 7.5 is actually pretty good from me.
I'm pretty forgiving with women when rating them. As long as she's not a fatty, old looking, or her face isn't busted, I'm probably not going to give her a 4 or less. Most girls will likely get a 6 or 7 if they're decent.
But to get an 8 or more, the girl has to really be exceptional. I don't give 8s or 9s out lightly. And I don't believe in 10s at all. The highest rating I've ever given a girl is 9.2.
True. You don't have to look very hard to find women who are physically attractive. Because they are fairly common, and I've been with enough to know what it's like to be with a secksy lady, other traits get more importance. A really good looking woman to me is a 7. If she is smart, funny, can hold a conversation, and is a naughty girl in the bed she can get boosted up to an 8 or 9. If she is dull or boring and just has a sh!tty I expect the world attitude, she goes down to a 6.loveshogun said:I can't think of a single 9 that I know, actually, because looking good by itself doesn't impress me anymore. A girl would have to look literally like something I'm imagining in my head.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.