That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You dont know the whole story so dont get involved. Most girls are not worth going to jail over.hi2u said:That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
sound adviceLJC said:Careful here, man. I've had at least one woman give me a rape story that was completely false (I actually knew the guy she accused well, though she didn't know). For the most part, this could mean one of three things:
1) She's telling a lie and wants to see how "manly" you are in so far as sticking up for her.
2) She's telling the truth and wants to see how forgiving you are with baggage (and there will always be more to come after that).
3) She's telling a half truth; meaning she let this guy bang her when she was trashed and she loved it then, but later regretted it because he turned out to be a total prick when sober. This is the worst kind, because it is literally a combination of the first two.
Whatever the case may be, don't get deep into it, man. You can't win.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Of course it is, she agrees to it and if you are truely a Don Juan, she will want more of it.hi2u said:That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
Fukk no, you don't do anything. It's not your business. The b1tch is probably full of sh1t anyway. Can we say AW? If this dude comes up to you making fun of her and disrespects YOU, yeah kick his ass.NSUballer said:well when i was goin out with this chic like 4 months ago she told me one of her "friends" took advantage of her one night when she was wasted(before i knew her) and she said i was the only person she ever told. I was like wtf how am i supposed to react. but i thought to myself if she didnt tell anyone else then wtf am i supposed to do?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You speak the truth kinda sir.NYtomb said:You dont know the whole story so dont get involved. Most girls are not worth going to jail over.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.