Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You dont know the whole story so dont get involved. Most girls are not worth going to jail over.hi2u said:That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
sound adviceLJC said:Careful here, man. I've had at least one woman give me a rape story that was completely false (I actually knew the guy she accused well, though she didn't know). For the most part, this could mean one of three things:
1) She's telling a lie and wants to see how "manly" you are in so far as sticking up for her.
2) She's telling the truth and wants to see how forgiving you are with baggage (and there will always be more to come after that).
3) She's telling a half truth; meaning she let this guy bang her when she was trashed and she loved it then, but later regretted it because he turned out to be a total prick when sober. This is the worst kind, because it is literally a combination of the first two.
Whatever the case may be, don't get deep into it, man. You can't win.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Of course it is, she agrees to it and if you are truely a Don Juan, she will want more of it.hi2u said:That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
Fukk no, you don't do anything. It's not your business. The b1tch is probably full of sh1t anyway. Can we say AW? If this dude comes up to you making fun of her and disrespects YOU, yeah kick his ass.NSUballer said:well when i was goin out with this chic like 4 months ago she told me one of her "friends" took advantage of her one night when she was wasted(before i knew her) and she said i was the only person she ever told. I was like wtf how am i supposed to react. but i thought to myself if she didnt tell anyone else then wtf am i supposed to do?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You speak the truth kinda sir.NYtomb said:You dont know the whole story so dont get involved. Most girls are not worth going to jail over.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.