"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Raped... kick his ass?

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What if your girl got raped, but NOT when she was your girl... say you didn't even know the girl at the time. Would you kick that guys ass who raped your girl or what?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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well when i was goin out with this chic like 4 months ago she told me one of her "friends" took advantage of her one night when she was wasted(before i knew her) and she said i was the only person she ever told. I was like wtf how am i supposed to react. but i thought to myself if she didnt tell anyone else then wtf am i supposed to do?
 
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Whoa! Was he sexy?

:cool: :trouble: :rockon: :mad: :kick: :flowers: :moon: :cuss:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I would kick anyone's ass who has raped or taken advantage of a girl.. Then as they are laying there in a bloody pool, call the cops... Might get in trouble for whoopin the guys ass, but it would be worth it...
 

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That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
 

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hi2u said:
That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
You dont know the whole story so dont get involved. Most girls are not worth going to jail over.
 

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Careful here, man. I've had at least one woman give me a rape story that was completely false (I actually knew the guy she accused well, though she didn't know). For the most part, this could mean one of three things:

1) She's telling a lie and wants to see how "manly" you are in so far as sticking up for her.

2) She's telling the truth and wants to see how forgiving you are with baggage (and there will always be more to come after that).

3) She's telling a half truth; meaning she let this guy bang her when she was trashed and she loved it then, but later regretted it because he turned out to be a total prick when sober. This is the worst kind, because it is literally a combination of the first two.

Whatever the case may be, don't get deep into it, man. You can't win.
 

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LJC said:
Careful here, man. I've had at least one woman give me a rape story that was completely false (I actually knew the guy she accused well, though she didn't know). For the most part, this could mean one of three things:

1) She's telling a lie and wants to see how "manly" you are in so far as sticking up for her.

2) She's telling the truth and wants to see how forgiving you are with baggage (and there will always be more to come after that).

3) She's telling a half truth; meaning she let this guy bang her when she was trashed and she loved it then, but later regretted it because he turned out to be a total prick when sober. This is the worst kind, because it is literally a combination of the first two.

Whatever the case may be, don't get deep into it, man. You can't win.
sound advice
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hi2u said:
That happens all the time. Don't drag yourself into HER past mistakes & politics. Some guys use cunning charm and wit to get women into bed, other guys use beer and rum. Don't act like your way is a whole lot more morally superior.
Of course it is, she agrees to it and if you are truely a Don Juan, she will want more of it.

On topic. I wouldn't go out of my way to kick the guys ass but if I ever saw him walking down the street or whatever I would kick his ass.
 

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I'm a lover not a fighter, this is the new millennium guys girls that get raped either got themselves into a bad situation (getting drunk then having sex with some weirdo), or got taken advantage of by someone close to them (old man raped her as a child).

Of course its different if the story is how some drunk dude jumped out of the bushes and raped her in a park, thats different but those stories are very very rare. And in this age of AFC's guys are too afraid to talk to a girl let alone rape them LOL.

Find out the real truth and act from there thats if you want to get involved in her crap, personally I wouldnt give a rats a$$ unless its the whole some dude jumped out of the bushes crap (but most chicks now carry mace or some crap, yea that shiny thing in her hand bag aint a dildo)
 

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I also wanted to add that this can possibly be an indicator that she's cheating on you, specifically if she is using this story as an excuse suddenly to refrain from having sex with you in a LTR.

Don't ask me how I know that one....
 

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Look.. the issues now are what's the best thing to do for HER, and is any of your dignity at stake given this happened to your gal?

At the very least, she should talk with someone who knows how to recover from this kind of thing. Yep, that means a support group, or some sort of counseling service. Even if you beat on this guy, that won't heal her. And, whatever distance she wants away from this guy should be granted, no questions.

As for you beating on this guy, you'll have to trade off how you think you'll feel after that vs legal consequences, your values in using aggression, etc. What would make you or her better off? Beating on him for a time might make you feel better. It won't change what has happened.
 

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NSUballer said:
well when i was goin out with this chic like 4 months ago she told me one of her "friends" took advantage of her one night when she was wasted(before i knew her) and she said i was the only person she ever told. I was like wtf how am i supposed to react. but i thought to myself if she didnt tell anyone else then wtf am i supposed to do?
Fukk no, you don't do anything. It's not your business. The b1tch is probably full of sh1t anyway. Can we say AW? If this dude comes up to you making fun of her and disrespects YOU, yeah kick his ass.

She shouldn't have even told you about it, that makes the story seem false to me. If she was affected by it, she would keep it secret, I promise. Poor, little innocent victim that got raped. Bullsh1t, substitute the word "wh0re" for "victim"....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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what's done is done

if she is still hurt, push her to get caunceling (just don't turn into one)

remember, society is WOMAN FRIENDLY, and if she really felt violated she would report it and put the guy in jail. It's really easy for women to do that these days.....i'm sure some of the guys on here could give you horror storries.

If it comes up send her to counseling. If she doesn't want it, change the subject.
 

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No, as she could be lying and just want somebody to beat up an innocent ex boyfriend who broke up with her.

If some chick brought up that sh!t to me I'd say alright lets call the cops right now.

If she was against that I'd begin to wonder to myself if she was really raped at all.

Honestly guys think.

Don't take a woman's word automatically as truth.

It has gotten so many of us in trouble and imprisoned over the years.
 
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I don't know, it depends on the girl.
Alot of chicks love drama (I am black, and just about every 3 out of 4 black girls love drama) so she could just be trying to stir you up.

For one, if the girl really got raped, the question is: did she report it?
Another question is: What's the status? Does she know anybody who knows the guy? Does she know where he is?

If a girl really got raped and didn't want to, she would have pressed charges. She probably got fvcked by him and then thought about it afterwards and wished she didn't fvck him.
 

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NYtomb said:
You dont know the whole story so dont get involved. Most girls are not worth going to jail over.
You speak the truth kinda sir.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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