CuriousGirl
Senior Don Juan
No it's just true for me! If I'm on a treadmill I won't run for as long as I would running outside..HolyG said:Haha.....girls are so cute. I swear, where do yall get this junk from?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No it's just true for me! If I'm on a treadmill I won't run for as long as I would running outside..HolyG said:Haha.....girls are so cute. I swear, where do yall get this junk from?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You're supposed to take a girl on an emotional rollercoaster. It's no good having a relationship and not letting your girl experience the ups and the downs. This means making her go through emotions like anger, sadness, excitement, surprise, fear, jealousy and horniness, even if it is whimsical and illogical.DJ_Hero said:Can someone please expand on this "pleasing emotions" sh1t? It's often thrown around her and I have no idea what people mean, how would I go about "emotionally fúcking" someone?
Occasionally beat the **** out of her with something blunt.DJ_Hero said:Can someone please expand on this "pleasing emotions" sh1t? It's often thrown around her and I have no idea what people mean, how would I go about "emotionally fúcking" someone?
An who is good looking according to the definition in her culture.. the women at my job only talk about looks and money then ocasionaly sex but they are constantly asking how a guy look sand who much money he has..Rescue Mission said:And yes, it really is THIS simple:
Every woman just wants a cool guy who is fun, can give her emotional and sexual pleasure, and will make all of her friends jealous. PERIOD.
That one sentence sums it all up..........it really is that simple.
If thats the only thing they talk than they are perfect for a one night stand, if you have looks you can lie about the money or if you got money you can gain social status ("charm" in women language").DonGorgon said:the women at my job only talk about looks and money then ocasionaly sex but they are constantly asking how a guy look sand who much money he has..
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
We left that off because Just a Shot Away might post his bs about that here.DonGorgon said:An who is good looking according to the definition in her culture.. the women at my job only talk about looks and money then ocasionaly sex but they are constantly asking how a guy look sand who much money he has..
marketing department of a phone company.nismo-4 said:We left that off because Just a Shot Away might post his bs about that here.
What kind of job do you work anyway?
I have that in my job too, but who is cute and atractive seems to vary day by day (and who is leading the talk).DonGorgon said:important note.. they only mention personality when they find the guy to be very unattractive and most times they mention that he is also annoying for trying to approach them while not being cute or rich..lololol
Honestly, from what I've seen, the girl will eventually jettison an abusive boyfriend, if not sooner than later. Many girls will get rid of a guy at the first sign of abuse, for others it takes years. It probably depends to some extent how much self esteem the girl has.Why do you think girls who are abused by their boyfriends stay with them, they are in it for the emotional rollercoaster their bf takes them on.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How the heck do you plan an emotional rollercoaster? Randomly shout at her and break her things for no reason, then give her a "baby I'm so sorry"?CaptainJ said:You're supposed to take a girl on an emotional rollercoaster. It's no good having a relationship and not letting your girl experience the ups and the downs. This means making her go through emotions like anger, sadness, excitement, surprise, fear, jealousy and horniness, even if it is whimsical and illogical.
Why do you think girls who are abused by their boyfriends stay with them, they are in it for the emotional rollercoaster their bf takes them on. I'm not saying abuse your girlfriend, but make sure she experiences a wide spectrum of emotions when she is dating you. Keep it impulsive and unpredictable.
zekko said:Honestly, from what I've seen, the girl will eventually jettison an abusive boyfriend, if not sooner than later. Many girls will get rid of a guy at the first sign of abuse, for others it takes years. It probably depends to some extent how much self esteem the girl has.
So this emotional rollercoaster idea probably works well in the short term, but if a guy is abusing a girl at some point she is going to wake up and not take it anymore. Usually.
Lol, it's a legit question, I've found it a bit confusing also. Like you say, how do you plan this? If it's just teasing, why call it an emotional rollercoaster? Just call it teasing.How the heck do you plan an emotional rollercoaster? Randomly shout at her and break her things for no reason, then give her a "baby I'm so sorry"?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah this emotional rollercoaster thing doesn't sound very nice. Surely only a girl with issues would put up with any kind of abuse.zekko said:Lol, it's a legit question, I've found it a bit confusing also. Like you say, how do you plan this? If it's just teasing, why call it an emotional rollercoaster? Just call it teasing.
I mean, what do you do, go down some kind of checklist?
Fear - Pulled out in front of an oncoming semi. Check.
Surprise - Waited for her to come out of her house and jumped out from the bushes. Check.
Then why is it that ALL girls respond to it?CuriousGirl said:Yeah this emotional rollercoaster thing doesn't sound very nice. Surely only a girl with issues would put up with any kind of abuse.
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What kind of emotional rollercoaster are we talking about here though? How are you provoking her?horaholic said:Then why is it that ALL girls respond to it?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.