Powersurgeon
Don Juan
Would you date a 36 yo divorced woman (divorced because she cheated), with 3 kids, that sees her ex on a daily basis (because of the kids) seeking for a LTR?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tictac
Banned
Cheater - no.
Sees her old man because of the kids - maybe but likely not.
Sees her old man because of the kids - maybe but likely not.
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
People don't change.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear PowerSurgeon,
The biggest problem is the three Kids...If she ticked my boxes,I would certainly enjoy her company on a regular basis,but only as a Plate,never let a Woman like that get her feet under your table!
The biggest problem is the three Kids...If she ticked my boxes,I would certainly enjoy her company on a regular basis,but only as a Plate,never let a Woman like that get her feet under your table!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Powersurgeon
Don Juan
I think that a guy who puts himself in that position is an AFC.
If you mean date as in a serious relationship, probably not, but as a FWB sure I would. I'm seeing a 33yo old with 3 younger kids, I haven't even asked about what the deal is with her ex, because I don't care, I just want her as a FWB.
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she'd have to be a "Salt" , like Angie played in that movie and such a woman would never have 3 kids (of her own).
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Hell no. Unless you just want to pound it once. No investment either. And go Ghost.
Eco-J
Don Juan
Plus, you're only 35. Why are you bothering with any 36 year old in the first place, let alone one with so many potential headaches?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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I don't date women with more than one kid. If she decided to have more than one kid, she should've made it work with the guy she had the last kid with. If you're going to start a family, fvcking stick to it. Thinking you can still party with any guy you want AND raise a family is foolish thinking. The bytch should've seen it through.
If her kids are all in their mid teens or older, that's a different story since the kids have their own lives. Otherwise, HELL NO.
If her kids are all in their mid teens or older, that's a different story since the kids have their own lives. Otherwise, HELL NO.
Powersurgeon
Don Juan
The women in question is my ex. I am trying to figure out her new boyfriend. How come a 42 yo, divorced, with adult sons will get involved with a biatch like my ex.
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Because all he sees is her good side and a ton of sex. My ex did the same thing. It is in their nature to work as hard as they can to lock down the best man they can.Powersurgeon said:
Now instead of figuring it out, you should be fighting your own fight. How about you forget about her and focus on what you want?
Powersurgeon
Don Juan
My only worry is that for me is not normal that a guy with the above caractheristics is so eager to know my 6 yo daughter and my 4 yo male twins. Or he is a total AFC or a pedophile.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No. Dating is for chumps. You don't have to date to have sex.Powersurgeon said:
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
I'm telling you it is normal. The wife moves on and pays no penalty for past behavior. Some guys will reject because she has kids but most won't.
I get the worry, and I'd never make light of the concern. But you have very little you can do. Just see the kids a lot, know what goes on. I would also suggest meeting the guy if you're that worried.
I wish I had more to suggest. You're unlikely to dictate the pace of introduction to the ex. I couldn't.
I get the worry, and I'd never make light of the concern. But you have very little you can do. Just see the kids a lot, know what goes on. I would also suggest meeting the guy if you're that worried.
I wish I had more to suggest. You're unlikely to dictate the pace of introduction to the ex. I couldn't.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
I'd use her for sex, but bail when she wanted me to "marry up" and help her raise her kids..... She could CALL it dating if she wanted to
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Oh Good Lord.Powersurgeon said:
We are headed down the same toilet that Rome flushed itself down.
Take care of your kids, guy. Geez I just don't get it. You OR your wife. Why put your kids through that sh*t. And you're far from alone.
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Speed dawg all due respect but what exactly is he supposed to do differently? He said his wife cheated. She's introducing the kids to a new guy. What control does he have?
If he does everything perfectly he might get an equal legal footing. But I don't see any recourse for him or me or anyone else.
If you specific actions he can take, please let us know.
If he does everything perfectly he might get an equal legal footing. But I don't see any recourse for him or me or anyone else.
If you specific actions he can take, please let us know.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.