Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Or what might not happen if he changes.Sanity_Cleaver said:... You're afraid of what'll happen if you change. ...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Or what might not happen if he changes.Sanity_Cleaver said:... You're afraid of what'll happen if you change. ...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
There are more things to life than just getting laid.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Wow... Luke, you been this site since 2006 and still havn't got laid?
Spend what money? The last purchase of a book was in September, 2003 for $ 20.00. The last CD purchase was in October, 2005, but I never fully connected with that program. I got a refund back on another e-book from John Alanis, again I didn't connect to that program. In all - I dont think I've made a serious investment on books about dating. Other people may have spent thousands of dollars - I haven't spent much.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Maybe the problem is that you spend money on all these books and movies about dating. For what?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Luke Skywalker said:There are more things to life than just getting laid.
Spend what money? The last purchase of a book was in September, 2003 for $ 20.00. The last CD purchase was in October, 2005, but I never fully connected with that program. I got a refund back on another e-book from John Alanis, again I didn't connect to that program. In all - I dont think I've made a serious investment on books about dating. Other people may have spent thousands of dollars - I haven't spent much.
Movies - I spend money on movies all the time - it's entertainment - to be frank, most of this is about entertainment - approaching girls, gaming them, the fun or entertainment is in the chase anyway and learning how it all works.
I didn't pursue every opportunity to get laid last year. Like I said, this is not the be all and end all with me, or I would have gotten laid a few times over last year (and possibly some STD's too).Fenderules said:for a person that says there is more to life then getting laid..........you sure as hell spend a good chunk of your time talking about how you are trying to get laid....ntm all that time on those books and movies.........face it.......you want it bad.
Dont deny your emotions.
There is more to life than sex.....life is many things but sex is a nice part of it....... so why the hell would you hold back????????? like duh
I have the right to feel that way. Just review all the threads I've made on here since I first joined and you'll see what I'm saying. So, it's like a lottery in a way. Now, sure if I really won a lottery, I"m sure I can throw money somewhere and get some ho to sit next to me on a beach, but you know, this is something real and natural and money cant buy that, so maybe it's like winning a lottery in a different sence.tmpgstx said:Christ Luke, you'd think you won the lottery or something.
The goal of this thread is two fold - notice it says on the title to EITHER get a gf OR get laid. It presents an option. I have strict (no sex before marriage values) and so does she. I will move to marry her before 'getting laid'.tmpgstx said:It's good you made some head-way, but you got a ways to go.
Take it to the house within the next few dates, let us know if you get laid by your target date which i think is unrealistic. You shouldn't expect too much too soon![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bulllllshyt! I think it added to the excitement last night when I was blowing this girl's mind on her couch.Taking it to the house is unrealistic since she lives with her parents, and I also live with my parents. Going on an unchaperoned date to a beach that's an hour and a half away is good enough for me. Hopefully she'll have a bathing suit on and I'll see her half-naked.
Luke, women have more intense orgasms when they have to keep quiet. You'll be an amazing lover the first time if you fvck her while the parents are home.Taking it to the house is unrealistic since she lives with her parents, and I also live with my parents.
Dude, are you serieus?The goal of this thread is two fold - notice it says on the title to EITHER get a gf OR get laid. It presents an option. I have strict (no sex before marriage values) and so does she. I will move to marry her before 'getting laid'.
Whomever I choose to marry shall be good in bed - it just will happen that way, and test drive will be needed. I'll take that risk.Holland said:Dude, are you serieus?
You never even check out how she is in bed before you marry her?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.