Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Or what might not happen if he changes.Sanity_Cleaver said:... You're afraid of what'll happen if you change. ...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Or what might not happen if he changes.Sanity_Cleaver said:... You're afraid of what'll happen if you change. ...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
There are more things to life than just getting laid.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Wow... Luke, you been this site since 2006 and still havn't got laid?
Spend what money? The last purchase of a book was in September, 2003 for $ 20.00. The last CD purchase was in October, 2005, but I never fully connected with that program. I got a refund back on another e-book from John Alanis, again I didn't connect to that program. In all - I dont think I've made a serious investment on books about dating. Other people may have spent thousands of dollars - I haven't spent much.I.A.F.Y.B. said:Maybe the problem is that you spend money on all these books and movies about dating. For what?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Luke Skywalker said:There are more things to life than just getting laid.
Spend what money? The last purchase of a book was in September, 2003 for $ 20.00. The last CD purchase was in October, 2005, but I never fully connected with that program. I got a refund back on another e-book from John Alanis, again I didn't connect to that program. In all - I dont think I've made a serious investment on books about dating. Other people may have spent thousands of dollars - I haven't spent much.
Movies - I spend money on movies all the time - it's entertainment - to be frank, most of this is about entertainment - approaching girls, gaming them, the fun or entertainment is in the chase anyway and learning how it all works.
I didn't pursue every opportunity to get laid last year. Like I said, this is not the be all and end all with me, or I would have gotten laid a few times over last year (and possibly some STD's too).Fenderules said:for a person that says there is more to life then getting laid..........you sure as hell spend a good chunk of your time talking about how you are trying to get laid....ntm all that time on those books and movies.........face it.......you want it bad.
Dont deny your emotions.
There is more to life than sex.....life is many things but sex is a nice part of it....... so why the hell would you hold back????????? like duh
I have the right to feel that way. Just review all the threads I've made on here since I first joined and you'll see what I'm saying. So, it's like a lottery in a way. Now, sure if I really won a lottery, I"m sure I can throw money somewhere and get some ho to sit next to me on a beach, but you know, this is something real and natural and money cant buy that, so maybe it's like winning a lottery in a different sence.tmpgstx said:Christ Luke, you'd think you won the lottery or something.
The goal of this thread is two fold - notice it says on the title to EITHER get a gf OR get laid. It presents an option. I have strict (no sex before marriage values) and so does she. I will move to marry her before 'getting laid'.tmpgstx said:It's good you made some head-way, but you got a ways to go.
Take it to the house within the next few dates, let us know if you get laid by your target date which i think is unrealistic. You shouldn't expect too much too soon![]()
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bulllllshyt! I think it added to the excitement last night when I was blowing this girl's mind on her couch.Taking it to the house is unrealistic since she lives with her parents, and I also live with my parents. Going on an unchaperoned date to a beach that's an hour and a half away is good enough for me. Hopefully she'll have a bathing suit on and I'll see her half-naked.
Luke, women have more intense orgasms when they have to keep quiet. You'll be an amazing lover the first time if you fvck her while the parents are home.Taking it to the house is unrealistic since she lives with her parents, and I also live with my parents.
Dude, are you serieus?The goal of this thread is two fold - notice it says on the title to EITHER get a gf OR get laid. It presents an option. I have strict (no sex before marriage values) and so does she. I will move to marry her before 'getting laid'.
Whomever I choose to marry shall be good in bed - it just will happen that way, and test drive will be needed. I'll take that risk.Holland said:Dude, are you serieus?
You never even check out how she is in bed before you marry her?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.