marmel75
Master Don Juan
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Lol, the same height I am now...5'8"How tall were you for these 188lb lifts?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Lol, the same height I am now...5'8"How tall were you for these 188lb lifts?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Perhaps your hormonal profile is declining. But you don't need HRT, right? That's for the unsavoryBeen taking fish oil most of my adult life, and yea it helps, but there's no way my joints can handle the weights of my youth any more...
Haha I know my hormones are changing, but it doesn't really bother me.. I have to age whether I like it or notPerhaps your hormonal profile is declining. But you don't need HRT, right? That's for the unsavory![]()
Fvck that brother, I'm not withering away into an old, frail man. IF age wants to take me out, it better come big and come swinging.Haha I know my hormones are changing, but it doesn't really bother me.. I have to age whether I like it or not
5'8" and 190 is like being 6'2" and 220. Decent amount of muscle if it's all muscle.Lol, the same height I am now...5'8"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It was...I looked like a linebacker and used to wear Nike drifits because my abs showed through them like slabs of ribs...5'8" and 190 is like being 6'2" and 220. Decent amount of muscle if it's all muscle.
Women be grabbing on that and enjoy the viewIt was...I looked like a linebacker and used to wear Nike drifits because my abs showed through them like slabs of ribs...
Lots of lower body weight my legs/glutes were bodybuilder jacked...
This kid is 16 years old and weighs 160 pounds and he's curling 50 pound dumbells. He's skinny but I'd say he is very strong for his age.Yes, 50 pound with one arm (100 pounds as you hold two) is heavy curling. That's the heaviest dumbbell in my set. Are you saying you curl with 80s? Those are for shrugs.
I'd like to arm wrestle you. I was the strongest arm wrestler in my high school, and am stronger now, and you're pretending I'm below average strength. You're talking out your as-s. Show us a video of you curling 50lb 10 times with one arm.
Sorry if my physique will conceivably only compare to the greatest NFL player of all time and not the most jacked NFL player of all time.
Oh, and sorry that my HB9 20 year old only stayed with me 9 months.
It might be that you guys have impossibly high standards. I wonder if you are living those standards or simply holding me to them.
You're talking about that "I won 5 Super Bowls" guy? The "I won Super Bowls at age 37 and age 39" guy? Let me guess: you wanted Seattle and Atlanta to win.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
im a 33 year old man I don't qualify myself to others. Did when I was younger but I have worked on my self esteem since then.Good for him. He is as strong as me. Are you? Show us photos of YOU doing it.
Today I asked my trainer: "Do people curl 50 pound dumbells with one arm?" He said "No, I discourage that because it is too much strain on the joints".
When I graduated high school I was 6'5" 170 with a 34 inch waist.
Today, 30 years later, I am 6'5" 215 with a 33 inch waist.
6'3, 215. I'm hovering around ~12% right now
That's a ridiculous statement. It's all relative.Today I asked my trainer: "Do people curl 50 pound dumbells with one arm?" He said "No, I discourage that because it is too much strain on the joints".
@marmel75 talked about strength levels, and I said curling 50 was a measure of strength, and I thought you said it wasn't.I don't care whether you think I can curl 50's
6'2", 240, its about the pics, a little leaner today, so whatever that number is. Should be under 10%. Goal is striated oblique, intercostals and glutes visible. Hopefully by my birthday 10/1...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My waist is 32". Wanna get it to 30" and drop about 10 lb of fat.@mrgoodstuff @SteR
You guys are big boys. I'm 6'1 190, but the extreme muscle development (due to heavy compound lifts) and 29 inch waist gives the illusion that I am much heavier.
Curling is nobody's measure of strength besides yours perhaps.@marmel75 talked about strength levels, and I said curling 50 was a measure of strength, and I thought you said it wasn't.
Strength was never my problem, despite the fact I was never muscular.
My muscle and fat levels always seemed to increase and decrease together, probably because carrying around extra fat makes you bigger. You might drop fat quickly and cut up but then the muscle level goes down, at least before I worked out.
I billed out 3600 hours this year, and had two happy bosses. That's 72 hours per week (6 12 hours days), with zero sick days. All while going to the gym.Go do some deadlifts, weighted pull ups, squats, bench presses, barbell rows or any other compound lift if you want to measure strength.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.