You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
1. Be a man and take responsibility for your actions, step up to the plate.Originally posted by wh01987
Well If she is what do I do. HOW DO YOU TELL YUOR PARENTS YOUR GF IS PREGNANT.
We need more advice like thisOriginally posted by biker_gixxer
2. 'mom, dad, she's pregnant' Yes, it really is that simple.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Evil? Hell no. I personally think we should move the abortion age limit from 3 months(?) to 80 years.Originally posted by Ratman
not to be a **** but if i got some1 pregant i would CONFICE them to get a abortion it sounds evil but at a young age a kid can **** the rest of ur life up![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Frankly I'm against abortion, he shouldn't have been so stupid. Take the f*cking responsibilty for your actions. The guys you know are also stupid, they had it comming.Originally posted by Oxide
vincent..you are so naive..
it's her own choice.. she can raise it on her own?? man, have you ever heard of CHILD SUPPORT?! i know guys my age who are so in debt becuase of that sh1t they cant offord anything!
howcome it takes two people to make a child.. one to deicde if she wants to keep it or not.. even if the guy disagrees! Howcome the guy still has to pay when he said "i dont want it" from the moment he heard the news!?
she knows what's coming..how the fvck does it make sense?!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.