Pregnancy Announcements Everywhere! Life When Your Blue Pill Social Circle Starts Having Babies

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Wow, that sounds hurtful. You had good reason to object to the wedding.

I never told him whether I objected to this marriage. I don't have any specific feelings on this marriage. In most cases, I don't think marriage is a good idea. There's a reason why more than half of marriage eventually end in divorce.

I'm offended that a friend of 10+ years would let his fiancé determine I couldn't attend and I have never received a good reason for why I was not invited. He claimed he wanted me at the wedding but his fiancé didn't want me there. This sounds like a blue pill male who will eventually get divorced.

I do not enjoy attending weddings and wedding receptions in general. I didn't mind not going to it at all. I had better things to do that day.

I thought I deserved a better explanation and not to be notified of my exclusion the day before the wedding. The poor communication is where my feelings are hurt the most, not actually missing an event that I wasn't excited to attend. I would have attended for my friend and to see one other friend who used to live in my city but moved away.
We had a conversation before he got married and I was a tad harsh, you wanna hear something crazy? I had gotten head from the chick 3 years before he met her I told him(remember I live in a small town in the midwest these situations aren't uncommon). My buddy still took her on a date married her and knocked her up. I only dealt with her on a one off situation and she confessed to me she was a self-proclaimed "*****" I know this sounds like a crazy story but I promise you it happened. Now he's dealing with her and had to get a restraining order, I thank God that nothing ever happened beyond that one night but it's crazy how life works

Regarding your situation, I know it sucks but the sad reality is a lot of men will always choose pvssy over their best friends even guys you knew since grade school it's a tough pill to swallow but it's the reality when you're dealing with most men
 

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It is a strong friendship. Not absolute elite level, but a strong second tier friend. I have been friends with him for over 10 years.



That's correct. I haven't seen his fiancé in person since prior to the pandemic and my interactions with her have been rather limited over time. I've never said anything offensive to her or done anything offensive.



I was informed the day before the wedding that I was not invited to the wedding.

It was surprising to me because I never received an invitation so I didn't even remember that the wedding was happening on that specific day.

It's very jarring to get a text message that tells me....

A) The wedding is happening the next day when I forgot the actual date of the wedding since I never received a Save the Date or an invitation
B) I wasn't invited to the wedding.

I deserved better.
Damn man, I’m sorry to hear that.

Personally, I don’t think it’s worth confronting him on it. He’s already pvssy whipped as he’s shown.

Like you said, it all would’ve been fine had he discussed it with you. I guess the only plays are to either forget about it or distance yourself a bit, depending on your preference.

You definitely do deserve better.
 

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Damn man, I’m sorry to hear that.

Personally, I don’t think it’s worth confronting him on it. He’s already pvssy whipped as he’s shown.

Like you said, it all would’ve been fine had he discussed it with you. I guess the only plays are to either forget about it or distance yourself a bit, depending on your preference.

You definitely do deserve better.
Right now, the next move in our friendship is his move. If he never contacts me again, then that's an outcome that I consider acceptable. I doubt he contacts me before October 1. Also, after October 1, the holiday season soon approaches and people get busy in November-December. It might be 2024 before he arranges to try to see me in-person again. The distancing could happen naturally if I do nothing, which I will do.

The majority of my social circle is blue pilled and pussie whipped. Right now, I'm not only questioning the friendship of the newly married childless guy who is the last of the group to marry but also questioning friendships with other blue pill men that I know, many of whom are the people who have recently become first time parents.

I need to make new friends. I don't have to do anything at all to let my current friendship lapse. The majority would lapse if I did nothing because they are busy with babies or a new marriage.

How do guys like us make friends with bachelor playboys? I need more suave seducer, bachelor playboy friends.

We had a conversation before he got married and I was a tad harsh, you wanna hear something crazy? I had gotten head from the chick 3 years before he met her I told him(remember I live in a small town in the midwest these situations aren't uncommon). My buddy still took her on a date married her and knocked her up.
That's a wild story. It's astounding he'd even go on a date with a woman who sucked his best friend's penis. I guess these things happen in smaller towns with a limited dating pool.

I only dealt with her on a one off situation and she confessed to me she was a self-proclaimed "*****" I know this sounds like a crazy story but I promise you it happened. Now he's dealing with her and had to get a restraining order, I thank God that nothing ever happened beyond that one night but it's crazy how life works
Your suave seduction game prevented you from getting into a bad life situation.

Regarding your situation, I know it sucks but the sad reality is a lot of men will always choose pvssy over their best friends even guys you knew since grade school it's a tough pill to swallow but it's the reality when you're dealing with most men
It's a shame that being blue pilled and pussie whipped has the potential to end a 10+ year long friendship. It's unknown where things can go from here.
 

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If he didn't invite you to the wedding then you have to reevaluate just how good a friend he really was (or rather how little he valued the friendship from his end of things). Sucks I know but it helps you to pivot based on reality rather than what you wanted the friendship to be.
 

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If he didn't invite you to the wedding then you have to reevaluate just how good a friend he really was (or rather how little he valued the friendship from his end of things). Sucks I know but it helps you to pivot based on reality rather than what you wanted the friendship to be.
I was informed the day before the wedding that I was not invited to the wedding.

It was surprising to me because I never received an invitation so I didn't even remember that the wedding was happening on that specific day.

It's very jarring to get a text message that tells me....

A) The wedding is happening the next day when I forgot the actual date of the wedding since I never received a Save the Date or an invitation
B) I wasn't invited to the wedding.

I deserved better.
It's a bit of an odd situation.

I think going to weddings is a waste of time. I'm an introvert, so I don't like socialization. I liked that friend and was willing to suffer through an evening to support my friend, see one other local friend, and see a friend who had moved away. I gave a shiit about a total of 3 people in a room of what likely would have been around 100 attendees. I don't also enjoy getting dressed up and making small talk with random people. I don't understand why attending weddings is such a big deal.

I'll attend a wedding if I think I have a good chance of getting laid at the reception after. If I don't think there's a good chance of me getting laid from my attendance at the reception, I would prefer to stay home. If I have an exclusive girlfriend at the time I need to RSVP for a wedding, I'd rather spend time doing many other things with a girlfriend than attending a wedding.

If you think about what happened, I was informed I was being excluded from an event that I would have preferred not to attend. My feelings about it were lukewarm at best. The problem was that I was informed of an exclusion in the most rude and disrespectful way possible.

How do I go about determining a proper reaction to a disrespectful and poorly communicated exclusion from an event that I didn't want to attend? I'm trying to figure that out right now.

My exclusion from the wedding was based on my friend also being a complete mangina and catering to the whims of his fiancé. That's a very pussie whipped behavior.

I deserved better. The least that I deserved was a phone call or an in-person discussion about why I was being considered for exclusion. To get a text message the day before the event when I didn't even remember the event was happening was about as disrespectful as it gets.
 

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Right now, the next move in our friendship is his move. If he never contacts me again, then that's an outcome that I consider acceptable. I doubt he contacts me before October 1. Also, after October 1, the holiday season soon approaches and people get busy in November-December. It might be 2024 before he arranges to try to see me in-person again. The distancing could happen naturally if I do nothing, which I will do.

The majority of my social circle is blue pilled and pussie whipped. Right now, I'm not only questioning the friendship of the newly married childless guy who is the last of the group to marry but also questioning friendships with other blue pill men that I know, many of whom are the people who have recently become first time parents.

I need to make new friends. I don't have to do anything at all to let my current friendship lapse. The majority would lapse if I did nothing because they are busy with babies or a new marriage.

How do guys like us make friends with bachelor playboys? I need more suave seducer, bachelor playboy friends.



That's a wild story. It's astounding he'd even go on a date with a woman who sucked his best friend's penis. I guess these things happen in smaller towns with a limited dating pool.



Your suave seduction game prevented you from getting into a bad life situation.



It's a shame that being blue pilled and pussie whipped has the potential to end a 10+ year long friendship. It's unknown where things can go from here.
I’m thinking that the best way to meet fellow bachelors is to meet them while out and about meeting women. Like when you’re out just make wings as you go, and keep in touch.

Or try to find a local pickup group where the people aren’t insane:rofl:
 

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Or try to find a local pickup group where the people aren’t insane:rofl:
@Jesse Pinkman does not think that is possible.

I’m thinking that the best way to meet fellow bachelors is to meet them while out and about meeting women. Like when you’re out just make wings as you go, and keep in touch.
I need more male friends, not necessarily wings. It'd be good to have a good wing, but I've never had a good wing. A person can be a friend without being a wing. It's difficult to be a wing without being a friend.
 

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@Jesse Pinkman does not think that is possible.



I need more male friends, not necessarily wings. It'd be good to have a good wing, but I've never had a good wing. A person can be a friend without being a wing. It's difficult to be a wing without being a friend.
Ah, I see.

In that case, maybe the standard blue pill advice wouldn’t be too bad. Sports, events, etc. Surely there are some guys who aren’t pvssy whipped in those groups.

That’s just a thought, though. I can’t say I’ve tried that myself that much past college.
 

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Ah, I see.

In that case, maybe the standard blue pill advice wouldn’t be too bad. Sports, events, etc. Surely there are some guys who aren’t pvssy whipped in those groups
I do more daygame, so wings aren't needed in most daygame venues. Wings are a nice-to-have for night game, but I value the male friendshup element more. With all of my male friends having moved on to marriage or marriage + babies, I need more male friends with whom I share a lifestyle commonality. I need more male friends in a common place in life as I am. This isn't easy to find at 35+.
 

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How do I go about determining a proper reaction to a disrespectful and poorly communicated exclusion from an event that I didn't want to attend?
You stop acting like a woman about it.

You didn't want to go in the first place. He did you a favor by showing you what he thought of your friendship (even if it's in response to his fiancee's opinion of you). Take a deep breath and step back and look at all the anger and irritation that YOU are bringing to the situation for yourself. That is your choice. Look past the initial response of anger and react based on what your boundaries are and who you are as a man.

The proper reaction is to go No Contact on him and his wife and build friendships with new people who value you in their life. Anything you tell him right now will fall on deaf ears and possibly derision. The decision for you is if you let him back into your life down the road as the dust of marriage settles, if things fall apart for him etc..
 

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You definitely do deserve better.
I am making some efforts to make new friends given the situation with some of my longer term friends. While I'm not going to actively end some friendships, I realize the need to find people whose lifestyles in 2023 are better matches for my 2023 lifestyle. These longer term friends and I were better lifestyle matches in 2013 than 2023.
 

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Add an 8th pregnancy in the social circle to the list, as a male acquaintance whose wife gave birth in early 2022 will have a 2nd kid in late 2023.

So many pregnancies and births that I can't keep track!
This birth happened.

I was informed the day before the wedding that I was not invited to the wedding.

It was surprising to me because I never received an invitation so I didn't even remember that the wedding was happening on that specific day.

It's very jarring to get a text message that tells me....

A) The wedding is happening the next day when I forgot the actual date of the wedding since I never received a Save the Date or an invitation
B) I wasn't invited to the wedding.

I deserved better.
If he didn't invite you to the wedding then you have to reevaluate just how good a friend he really was (or rather how little he valued the friendship from his end of things). Sucks I know but it helps you to pivot based on reality rather than what you wanted the friendship to be.
I have not heard from that guy since he failed to invite me to his wedding. Friendship is likely finished.
 

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I saw this thread started on November 7, 2022. Happy one year anniversary to this thread!

I think all the pregnancies I've mentioned are now in the past, so this primary social group has numerous children now less than a year old.

I mentioned how I was excluded from a friend's wedding in some posts in September. He and his wife are likely the next pregnancy. As mentioned before, the friendship is likely finished. He has not contacted me since informing me that I was excluded from his wedding at his request of his fiancé (now wife). I also have no plans to contact him either. I wasn't upset about not going to that wedding. Going to weddings is annoying and I find it a relief not to go. I was displeased with the process behind why I was excluded and that I could have been informed earlier about my exclusion.
 

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I saw this thread started on November 7, 2022. Happy one year anniversary to this thread!

I think all the pregnancies I've mentioned are now in the past, so this primary social group has numerous children now less than a year old.

I mentioned how I was excluded from a friend's wedding in some posts in September. He and his wife are likely the next pregnancy. As mentioned before, the friendship is likely finished. He has not contacted me since informing me that I was excluded from his wedding at his request of his fiancé (now wife). I also have no plans to contact him either. I wasn't upset about not going to that wedding. Going to weddings is annoying and I find it a relief not to go. I was displeased with the process behind why I was excluded and that I could have been informed earlier about my exclusion.
Why weren’t you invited
 

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Why weren’t you invited
Women in LTRs dont want their men hanging out with single guys because they are a "bad influence".
The guy's fiancé objected to me being invited because I didn't attend some destination wedding in the social circle back in 2017. Keep in mind that I filled out the RSVP card with a "no" for that 2017 wedding. I have no idea what that would have been an issue. That may have been a flimsy excuse for some other deeper issue. My friend didn't want to challenge his fiancé about my invitation and proved himself to be a weak beta male mangina.

I had not seen his fiancé in person in approximately 5 years and my interactions with her have been rather limited over time. I've never said anything offensive to her or done anything offensive.

It is possible that the fiancé perceived as a "bad influence" and that is why she didn't want me around that wedding. I have gotten together with this male friend before at breastaurants like Twin Peaks. Although I am passionate about getting laid and seduction, it is doubtful that there would have been any viable female targets present at this wedding. I don't think my socializing at Twin Peaks should have been an issue since this guy has gone to strip clubs with other guys at certain bachelor parties. Twin Peaks is mild compared to a strip club.

I don't think it was any major loss that I wasn't present at that wedding. I am displeased about the lack of courtesy and the lack of notification about my exclusion. I was not informed about my exclusion from the wedding until the day before the wedding and I was informed via text message and not a phone call. If my presence wasn't desired, I could have been informed in-person or via a phone call months before the wedding.

I made the decision to go no contact on this friendship based on the disrespectful, similar to how I would go no contact on a woman in a romantic interaction for a certain level of disrespect.
 

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The guy's fiancé objected to me being invited because I didn't attend some destination wedding in the social circle back in 2017. Keep in mind that I filled out the RSVP card with a "no" for that 2017 wedding. I have no idea what that would have been an issue. That may have been a flimsy excuse for some other deeper issue. My friend didn't want to challenge his fiancé about my invitation and proved himself to be a weak beta male mangina.
Women are really uptight about weddings and I know there's only select number of spots for them. Being a destination wedding, you might have screwed up the order by not going.
 
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