"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Preferred contact info to get from girls?

Preferred contact info to get from girls?


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Sam Harlo

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Getting chicks numbers isn't working as well for me as getting their snapchats.

Why?

I think it's because snapchat doesn't preview the message, so girls are forced to open it up and respond then and there before it gets erased...

As opposed to seeing FB message/text message pop up on phone screen, giving them hours to respond/forget about it.

Also, snapchat seems a little more casual/not as intimidating.

This applies to girls you've cold approached/met out btw. Not girls from social circle.

What contact information do you guys prefer to grab? Phone number? Snapchat? Facebook?

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Thanks!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dustmuffin

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Phone number, but I'm an old guy. I don't do snap chat, instagram or what not. I do facebook but not if I just started dating a girl. I don't give out my facebook lightly. If they don't want to do it my way I move on. There are plenty of women that will.
 

TheProspect

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Remember all messaging should be minimalized and should lead to arranging dates. Save your wit and charm for in-person.

Number: If you ask her for her number, and she is interested, she will give it to you.

Snapchat: Viable alternative. A lot of younger girls are more comfortable and more open to giving out their snapchat username I've been noticing. This platform is more discreet too. It also can benefit you if you live an exciting lifestyle and will give you more social value. Use the Chat feauture. However, don't become a orbiter... Make sure you get to the point the same way if you were texting. (Arranging a date)

Facebook & Instagram: You're setting yourself up to be a orbiter and water her ego flower. Don't follow any broads on these.
 

SmooveMooves

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Snapchat: Viable alternative. A lot of younger girls are more comfortable and more open to giving out their snapchat username I've been noticing. This platform is more discreet too. It also can benefit you if you live an exciting lifestyle and will give you more social value. Use the Chat feauture. However, don't become a orbiter... Make sure you get to the point the same way if you were texting. (Arranging a date)
Took the words out of my mouth.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sam Harlo

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Remember all messaging should be minimalized and should lead to arranging dates. Save your wit and charm for in-person.

Number: If you ask her for her number, and she is interested, she will give it to you.

Snapchat: Viable alternative. A lot of younger girls are more comfortable and more open to giving out their snapchat username I've been noticing. This platform is more discreet too. It also can benefit you if you live an exciting lifestyle and will give you more social value. Use the Chat feauture. However, don't become a orbiter... Make sure you get to the point the same way if you were texting. (Arranging a date)

Facebook & Instagram: You're setting yourself up to be a orbiter and water her ego flower. Don't follow any broads on these.
Very solid points. Most girls I meet are 18-23, have short attention spans and are usually drunk. Probably snapchat is best!
 

marmel75

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In short, it's irrelevant.
 

bigneil

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Subtitled: OP asked for her phone number and got her Facebook and wonders whether it might be a good thing?
 

old_skoolr

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Phone Number, doesnt matter what generation you are, the implied meaning is the same.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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