syncmaster
Master Don Juan
Anyone in here from the pre-bible era... ie 3 or 4 years ago. Just wanna see who is still lurking around.
- Adam
- Adam
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Pre-Bible Era
- Thread starter syncmaster
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
The Antichrist_Star
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
Sync, haven't seen you in the longest time. I came here about 4 years ago, but the bible was around back then I think.
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
Well my missus of 3 years broke up w/ me so i'm back.
One thing i've noticed though is all these hotshot new guys who "have all the answers" but don't feel like sharing anything. It's always "go read the bible" ... kinda defeats the purpose of a "discussion forum". Ah for the good ol' days.
Lol and how could I forget you Wyldfire... yo're the only girl here... and you're still putting up with us
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Feel free to add me to msn people and I can regale you with the crazy stories i've had over the past 3 years.
Ciao
One thing i've noticed though is all these hotshot new guys who "have all the answers" but don't feel like sharing anything. It's always "go read the bible" ... kinda defeats the purpose of a "discussion forum". Ah for the good ol' days.
Lol and how could I forget you Wyldfire... yo're the only girl here... and you're still putting up with us
.Feel free to add me to msn people and I can regale you with the crazy stories i've had over the past 3 years.
Ciao
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NYC Dude
Master Don Juan
The forum was beige back then too.
A walk down memory lane...
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000512.html
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001001.html
And something by crowes22 from way back when...
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001473.html
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
Wow! No kidding eh?
Remember what it used to look like before that? They changed it to the "beige" look a month after I joined.
I think before that it was black & white.
I still think it looks a TON better back then... the memories.
Remember what it used to look like before that? They changed it to the "beige" look a month after I joined.
I think before that it was black & white.
I still think it looks a TON better back then... the memories.
Yeah, it was black and white I think...
I liked it better back then, too. It wasn't the look so much as the sense of genuine comraderie that existed. There wasn't so much hating and most of the arguing were over ideas and disagreeing with posts instead of the personal insults and attacks and nonsense going on now. It's kinda sad...
penkitten
Master Don Juan
wb sync!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
diablo
Master Don Juan
http://sosuave.com/bible/bible.htm
Last updated: May 30, 2002.
Bet'cha not many of you still had that link.
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
... OMG that's gold. I have a pdf version of that. That was the second generation bible. Lorenzo and I put together the first one and then it took off from there. I'm surprised it's still lurking around. I'm sure that version is one of the best (better than todays as well) because it's not corrupted by "know it all'ism" . Wyld was right - no sense of community here anymore.Originally posted by diablo
http://sosuave.com/bible/bible.htm
Last updated: May 30, 2002.
Bet'cha not many of you still had that link.
And hey penkitten
nice to see you too I'm finally seeing people I recognize and that i'm "at home" again
.. back when there were only 30 or so regualrs.syncmaster
Master Don Juan
Oh wow ... the original sosuave.com website with the ugly clashing colors... I miss that so much
Looks like it changed to the current system at the end of oct 2004. Check out some of the original posts from the "ugly" website. Wow. This is surreal.
AH! The old front page!
Theres some other thread floating around here which made mention of it, and i couldn't remember it.
(although i was DEFINENTLY here for it)
looking back at that, I can remember it.
SELF-MASTERY
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wow u guys are ol skool, i was a mere lurker back in the beige days, the forum had more of a mystic feel back then.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.