syncmaster
Master Don Juan
Anyone in here from the pre-bible era... ie 3 or 4 years ago. Just wanna see who is still lurking around.
- Adam
- Adam
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It was in it's infancy I'd say. They were more per-forum things, but yes it existed. Not nearly as detailed as it is now.Originally posted by NYC Dude
Sync, haven't seen you in the longest time. I came here about 4 years ago, but the bible was around back then I think.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
A walk down memory lane...Originally posted by NYC Dude
The forum was beige back then too.
Yeah, it was black and white I think...Originally posted by syncmaster
Wow! No kidding eh?
Remember what it used to look like before that? They changed it to the "beige" look a month after I joined.
I think before that it was black & white.
I still think it looks a TON better back then... the memories.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
http://sosuave.com/bible/bible.htmOriginally posted by NYC Dude
I came here about 4 years ago, but the bible was around back then I think.
... OMG that's gold. I have a pdf version of that. That was the second generation bible. Lorenzo and I put together the first one and then it took off from there. I'm surprised it's still lurking around. I'm sure that version is one of the best (better than todays as well) because it's not corrupted by "know it all'ism" . Wyld was right - no sense of community here anymore.Originally posted by diablo
http://sosuave.com/bible/bible.htm
Last updated: May 30, 2002.
Bet'cha not many of you still had that link.![]()
Oh wow ... the original sosuave.com website with the ugly clashing colors... I miss that so much
AH! The old front page!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.