spesmilitis
Master Don Juan
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Now thats what I'm talking about! You do BJJ, judo, wrestling, or sambo?howardalex said:I like a girl who can grapple with me...if she wins, boioioing![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Now thats what I'm talking about! You do BJJ, judo, wrestling, or sambo?howardalex said:I like a girl who can grapple with me...if she wins, boioioing![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
thai boxing, kickboxing and BJJspesmilitis said:Now thats what I'm talking about! You do BJJ, judo, wrestling, or sambo?
agreed she is the sex - however, the nicest bums come on the athletic girls IMO - she can pack back and still have lean muscleRaikojo17 said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Word up, I do BJJ. Ever dated a BJJ girl? I've considered it, but I have a reluctancy to date girls who i'm forced to see often, like girls who are in the same dorm/clubs/major as me. Great for avoiding drama. I guess thats the catch-22 of dating a BJJ girl. Maybe I'll look for a grappler at a judo club. . . .howardalex said:thai boxing, kickboxing and BJJ
no ground work or anything in kickboxing though, that's mainly for cardio tbh
Ditto. The nicest asses I have ever seen in my life are the sprinters and hurdlers on my college's track and feild team. God, their hamstrings/butt/legs. . .Theres more butt/leg than I know what to do with. Close seconds are vollyball players, and track & feild jumpers. Our school's soccor girls after that.howardalex said:agreed she is the sex - however, the nicest bums come on the athletic girls IMO - she can pack back and still have lean muscle![]()
'fraid not, I went out with a girl who played capoeira for a bit, best relationship I ever had tbhspesmilitis said:Word up, I do BJJ. Ever dated a BJJ girl? I've considered it, but I have a reluctancy to date girls who i'm forced to see often, like girls who are in the same dorm/clubs/major as me. Great for avoiding drama. I guess thats the catch-22 of dating a BJJ girl. Maybe I'll look for a grappler at a judo club. . . .
ewwwww celluliteDrum&Bass said:
Now i love phatties too, but thats just silly.rakishness said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That booty should win some award. DAYYUUM!!!Cash said:Now i love phatties too, but thats just silly.
So what your saying is you think Vida guerra, Beyonce and J lo are disgusting? BS!!!! Of course you don't!!! Because I presume you are heterosexual. PHATTIES are SEXY!!!!!! MEN LOVE THEM. Just go outside and you'll see what I'm talking about. A gurl with a phattie walks by. Everybody stares.Michele said:god damn thats disgusting...
no offense... but whoever says "DAAAYYUUMMM" to fat ass chicks with fat ass legs... but skinny upper bodies... ... well you lost my respect.
cottage cheese legs are disgusting, fat girls are disgusting, FAT ASSES are disgusting.
and don't get me wrong...
skinny girls (skinny people) are disgusting, muscular girls are disgusting also.
i liie "normal" girls... which is in between thin and curvy.
i like lean, thin, curvy girls.
i was about to puke seeing those fat chicks. that's so ****ing disgusting.
yeah in my neighborhood a girl with a fattie walks by... but a girl who's actually in shape jogs by.rakishness said:So what your saying is you think Vida guerra, Beyonce and J lo are disgusting? BS!!!! Of course you don't!!! Because I presume you are heterosexual. PHATTIES are SEXY!!!!!! MEN LOVE THEM. Just go outside and you'll see what I'm talking about. A gurl with a phattie walks by. Everybody stares.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.