spesmilitis
Master Don Juan
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Now thats what I'm talking about! You do BJJ, judo, wrestling, or sambo?howardalex said:I like a girl who can grapple with me...if she wins, boioioing![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Now thats what I'm talking about! You do BJJ, judo, wrestling, or sambo?howardalex said:I like a girl who can grapple with me...if she wins, boioioing![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
thai boxing, kickboxing and BJJspesmilitis said:Now thats what I'm talking about! You do BJJ, judo, wrestling, or sambo?
agreed she is the sex - however, the nicest bums come on the athletic girls IMO - she can pack back and still have lean muscleRaikojo17 said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Word up, I do BJJ. Ever dated a BJJ girl? I've considered it, but I have a reluctancy to date girls who i'm forced to see often, like girls who are in the same dorm/clubs/major as me. Great for avoiding drama. I guess thats the catch-22 of dating a BJJ girl. Maybe I'll look for a grappler at a judo club. . . .howardalex said:thai boxing, kickboxing and BJJ
no ground work or anything in kickboxing though, that's mainly for cardio tbh
Ditto. The nicest asses I have ever seen in my life are the sprinters and hurdlers on my college's track and feild team. God, their hamstrings/butt/legs. . .Theres more butt/leg than I know what to do with. Close seconds are vollyball players, and track & feild jumpers. Our school's soccor girls after that.howardalex said:agreed she is the sex - however, the nicest bums come on the athletic girls IMO - she can pack back and still have lean muscle![]()
'fraid not, I went out with a girl who played capoeira for a bit, best relationship I ever had tbhspesmilitis said:Word up, I do BJJ. Ever dated a BJJ girl? I've considered it, but I have a reluctancy to date girls who i'm forced to see often, like girls who are in the same dorm/clubs/major as me. Great for avoiding drama. I guess thats the catch-22 of dating a BJJ girl. Maybe I'll look for a grappler at a judo club. . . .
ewwwww celluliteDrum&Bass said:
Now i love phatties too, but thats just silly.rakishness said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That booty should win some award. DAYYUUM!!!Cash said:Now i love phatties too, but thats just silly.
So what your saying is you think Vida guerra, Beyonce and J lo are disgusting? BS!!!! Of course you don't!!! Because I presume you are heterosexual. PHATTIES are SEXY!!!!!! MEN LOVE THEM. Just go outside and you'll see what I'm talking about. A gurl with a phattie walks by. Everybody stares.Michele said:god damn thats disgusting...
no offense... but whoever says "DAAAYYUUMMM" to fat ass chicks with fat ass legs... but skinny upper bodies... ... well you lost my respect.
cottage cheese legs are disgusting, fat girls are disgusting, FAT ASSES are disgusting.
and don't get me wrong...
skinny girls (skinny people) are disgusting, muscular girls are disgusting also.
i liie "normal" girls... which is in between thin and curvy.
i like lean, thin, curvy girls.
i was about to puke seeing those fat chicks. that's so ****ing disgusting.
yeah in my neighborhood a girl with a fattie walks by... but a girl who's actually in shape jogs by.rakishness said:So what your saying is you think Vida guerra, Beyonce and J lo are disgusting? BS!!!! Of course you don't!!! Because I presume you are heterosexual. PHATTIES are SEXY!!!!!! MEN LOVE THEM. Just go outside and you'll see what I'm talking about. A gurl with a phattie walks by. Everybody stares.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.