"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Poll: Should SoSuave Lift its Bans?

Should Sosuave lift its censorships?

  • No, I like my posts free of swearing and political banter

    Votes: 9 25.0%
  • Lift the motherfuvcking swear ban!

    Votes: 11 30.6%
  • Lift the political ban, you nazi bastards.

    Votes: 2 5.6%
  • Lift both bans so we can talk sh!t about politics

    Votes: 14 38.9%

  • Total voters
    36

NINJA PIMP

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I know this is probably a huge waste of time, but I'm curious how many of you are with me.

Should we be allowed to talk like men here?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ace of Flames

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I've always thought the swear ban was kind of unnecessary. Anyone who comes to this site looking for advice on girls or sex or life is old enough to be cussing anyway. I don't really see who we're protecting, if that is the intent of the ban.

If the intent is to stifle flaming, I suppose I can understand, but if the swearing ever got that bad, you could just ban the offenders. And as Mctwist just pointed out, everyone goes around the filter anyway.
 

Ever onward

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We should be able to talk about politics. If people get out of hand, then ban em.
 

TheVirtualMind

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Ever onward said:
We should be able to talk about politics. If people get out of hand, then ban em.
We did that before...

Problem is, it REALLY got out of hand, even going into other forums.
 

penkitten

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Ever onward said:
If people get out of hand, then ban em.
well they did that too and then everyone hated everyone and it was one big old soap opera dramatic time here at sosuave.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ValleyDJing

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I want the swearing ban lifted. I don't want the politics ban lifted. Politics are ****ing stupid I don't care about them.
 

speakeasy

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I think in the "anything else" forum, it should be anything goes for sure. I don't see why have a forum called "anything else" and then stop people from talking about whatever they want in it. It makes sense not to post politics in the tips forum or health forum, but don't see why banning any certain topic is necessarily in this forum. As for the ban on certain words, I've never understood why we have that. It's not like small kids are reading this site or it has to be "family frendly" or something.
 

NINJA PIMP

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TheVirtualMind said:
We did that before...

Problem is, it REALLY got out of hand, even going into other forums.
This was true, what 2 years ago?

I will take your word for it since you are a mod and see more threads than I do, but within the last year I have not seen one political thread get out of hand. Sure some guys get passionate, but that's to be expected. I'm actually quite impressed with how the fellas debate here.

Sosuave needs to get over the trauma inflicted by the Demons, Player Supremes, PRL's etc etc. Its a brand new day yall
 
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NINJA PIMP said:
T PRL's etc etc. Its a brand new day yall
PR L never flamed anyone ... the homos flamed him>>>
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Capt.Jack Sparrow

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NINJA PIMP said:
This was true, what 2 years ago?

I will take your word for it since you are a mod and see more threads than I do, but within the last year I have not seen one political thread get out of hand. Sure some guys get passionate, but that's to be expected. I'm actually quite impressed with how the fellas debate here.

Sosuave needs to get over the trauma inflicted by the Demons, Player Supremes, PRL's etc etc. Its a brand new day yall

haha this is true. Capi Crimini anyone?

lil fuvker he was a nussiance... kinda miss that kid though he was funny at the same time

I agree with you on lifting both bans.

The political arguments amuse me :D
 

spesmilitis

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How about we have a flaming thread and the regular anything else thread? The flaming thread can have all the political threads.
 

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I don't come to a Seduction forum for politics. I don't go to a politics forum to talk "game".

It has no use here IMO, and the ban should stay.
 

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WesCottII said:
I don't come to a Seduction forum for politics. I don't go to a politics forum to talk "game".

It has no use here IMO, and the ban should stay.
I'll go and ****ing swear whereever the **** I want to swear though.
 

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Bonez said:
I'll go and ****ing swear whereever the **** I want to swear though.

Good luck with that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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iqqi said:
The best flame thread of all time: flame thread
I remember that thread, it was when I first joined - this was the last I heard of Starman. The flame war went on for five months!!

What happened to crotch sniffer? My "The Natural Order Of Things" thread was inspired by his "Sexuality is the duality that creates life" comment.

THERE WAS ANOTHER FLAME THREAD THAT WENT oN FOR 22 pages!! Those were THE days when men could be men!!!!
 

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Bonez said:
I'll go and ****ing swear whereever the **** I want to swear though.
Fvcking child.

WesCottII said:
I don't come to a Seduction forum for politics. I don't go to a politics forum to talk "game".

It has no use here IMO, and the ban should stay.
Brother Wescott is absolutely right. If I want to debate on what a complete fvcking idiot Bill O'Reilly and that horsefaced cvnt Anne Coulter are I'll go to an appropriate forum. :moon:
 

Bonhomme

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Have a political issues forum, and remove posts that get too political elsewhere.

If someone gets out of hand too much, warn 'em, and if they don't straighten out, ban 'em.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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