"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cmon, mods he's actually a good guy. :cry:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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He has been a long time contributor here. What gives?:oops:
 

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I guess he won't be appearing in the dj bible anytime soon....
 

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To be fair, I like the guy. He's clearly not stupid, but in all the years he's been here (2010 I seem to remember), and all the dating he claims to have done, he still has an extremely unhealthy attitude towards women in general.

Last week I see him posting about feeling violent tendencies towards women, wanting to push them down stairs or whatever. This is not good material to be posting on any website and least of all here, where we are discussing sensitive topics and there are emotional, vulnerable minds that might get the wrong impression. Like I said to him on that very thread, he needs some sort of face to face professional input; not some pop psychology on an amateur internet forum like this, which clearly hasn't been working for him.
 

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I like Tenacity and think he has more to offer than most here. He can offer solid, practical advice. He is just his own worst enemy when it comes to going off on people! It doesn't shock me that he got banned!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Last week I see him posting about feeling violent tendencies towards women, wanting to push them down stairs or whatever. This is not good material to be posting on any website and least of all here, where we are discussing sensitive topics and there are emotional, vulnerable minds that might get the wrong impression. Like I said to him on that very thread, he needs some sort of face to face professional input; not some pop psychology on an amateur internet forum like this, which clearly hasn't been working for him.
This. The guy is Elliot Rogers 2.0.

He shows absolutely no ability or intention to consider other people's points of view, nor deviate from his quite frankly, disturbing and destructive views on women - impressionable noobs don't benefit from reading nonsense like this. And in all the time he's been on this forum he hasn't changed.

I hope the ban is permanent. His net contribution to this forum is a huge negative.
 
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This. The guy is Elliot Rogers 2.0.

He shows absolutely no ability or intention to consider other people's points of view, nor deviate from his quite frankly, disturbing and destructive views on women - impressionable noobs don't benefit from reading nonsense like this. And in all the time he's been on this forum he hasn't changed.

I hope the ban is permanent. His net contribution to this forum is a huge negative.
Well, we are all entitled to our opinions, LOL.

But he's actually a nice person, yes he still has some life learning to do.

But I'm sure we ALL could improve in certain area's of life.;)
 

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I like Tenacity and think he has more to offer than most here. He can offer solid, practical advice. He is just his own worst enemy when it comes to going off on people! It doesn't shock me that he got banned!

He'll be back soon stronger than ever
 

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Sometimes he pushes the limit but I believe he deserves a second chance, it just needs to remind me to say certain things between the lines and no openly.
 

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Don't have any dellusion that he will change his posting style once he comes back. He is who he is. He's frustrated and venting a lot here. He may be able to contain himself for a bit but we all know people don't change. Eventually he will resume true tenacity style.

I'm all for second chances for anyone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tenacity being banned so he can't spread his poisonous attitude is like the end of a curse of winter and snow clouds to reveal spring and sunshine...
 

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I don't know the circumstances of his banning, so I can't speak to that. I will say this:
Personally, I liked the guy. But it sounded like he had some deep seated problems. I'm not sure what, maybe he was clinically depressed. Maybe he'll return shortly. But regardless, I hope his time away from here is good for him. This forum isn't always the healthiest place to be.
 

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Don't have any dellusion that he will change his posting style once he comes back. He is who he is. He's frustrated and venting a lot here. He may be able to contain himself for a bit but we all know people don't change. Eventually he will resume true tenacity style.

I'm all for second chances for anyone.
No delusion here sweety. ;)Again like I tell everybody else you are also entitled to your opinion. All I noticed is that you two seemed cool at first ALMOST like love birds. Then came the lovers quarl..:p

I don't know what happen between you two, it's none of my business either. :whistle:

My opinion is that ANYONE can change, of course that's an entirely different argument than "people don't change" which I agree is probably mostly true. However, It's my opinion that he's a decent person and that's based on personal conversations, don't know the cat in real life. Therefore I can only judge by my own personal observation. Whether you two like each other or not has no bearing on my relationship with him.
 

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@Sho-No-Luv no comment on the dynamics between he and I. I'm as confused as you are.

Honestly, i don't really care if he posts or not. I was only saying that he is cool with his style and, because he doesn't want to change, he will resume quid pro quo.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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He wasn't so bad. Just working sh!t out like a lot of us are.

Hopefully he's unbanned soon. Figures out what he was doing wrong and focuses on what he was doing right. There were a lot of interesting things in his posts.
 

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He wasn't so bad. Just working sh!t out like a lot of us are.

Hopefully he's unbanned soon. Figures out what he was doing wrong and focuses on what he was doing right. There were a lot of interesting things in his posts.

Yea, he had a neat take on things. To be honest with you i agreed with probably 85% of what he said. His thoughts on finance, dating, women, race, politics I pretty much agreed on. But I'm not intrested in arguing with people and force feeding my ideologies on them. I try to give well thought out arguments, but I never demand that people agree with me, I give people room to hang themselves...

I think the major differnce is that I'm much older(women were different) and i grew up around guys who really understood women, despite my (back then kind and trusting nature). They'd tell you when, where and how you were fycking up with women. When things finally clicked and when I gave up faulty programming habits, I was able to get women to do things for me that most men only dream of. But this also gave me an inside track to how ruthless women can be when they find a guy (like me) that's is superior to the man that they are already in a committed relationship with. They will drop you like a bad habit. But then it dawned on me that they can only exert their power and latitude over you with your express permission.

I think thats why I don't complain much i mean it might sound like I'm bragging but i was always very nice looking with very exotic features! However, I was still the proverbial nice guy, so I learned real fast that nice doesn't usually get you anywhere with women. o_O

You know, when you are different growing up (and look different) its kind of hard to fit in anywhere. And people always asking you what your ethnicity is, that shyt gets old fast. I felt like i didn't fit in growing up, back then in Texas there wasn't that many mixed black and biracial people, thats why i moved to California.

So, i got used to being the odd man out so to speak, and i think thats what made me identify with Tenacity, he's somewhat of an anomaly. I find him to be very intelligent, open, honest and articulate. No he's not perfect, sometimes he over analyses situations and fails to understand that not ALL of human behaviour can be understood via economic analytics, metrics, data, trends and so forth. But hey if that's how his mind works its because that his job and what he does for a living. Maybe thats a big part of his problem. Perhaps hes an autist of sorts.

And when your different, look different, act and think different its hard to relate to other people. Not trying to make this another race thread, so please miss me with that ish...

Just shedding a little light (finally) on who I am as a person.

The End, lol :D
 

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Personally he is one of my top 10 favorite posters here. 'Professionally' as a mod I agreed with others that the ban was justified based on some very specific and recent posts. He will get a second chance tho.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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