Sho-No-Luv
Senior Don Juan
Cmon, mods he's actually a good guy. 
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This. The guy is Elliot Rogers 2.0.Last week I see him posting about feeling violent tendencies towards women, wanting to push them down stairs or whatever. This is not good material to be posting on any website and least of all here, where we are discussing sensitive topics and there are emotional, vulnerable minds that might get the wrong impression. Like I said to him on that very thread, he needs some sort of face to face professional input; not some pop psychology on an amateur internet forum like this, which clearly hasn't been working for him.
Well, we are all entitled to our opinions, LOL.This. The guy is Elliot Rogers 2.0.
He shows absolutely no ability or intention to consider other people's points of view, nor deviate from his quite frankly, disturbing and destructive views on women - impressionable noobs don't benefit from reading nonsense like this. And in all the time he's been on this forum he hasn't changed.
I hope the ban is permanent. His net contribution to this forum is a huge negative.
I like Tenacity and think he has more to offer than most here. He can offer solid, practical advice. He is just his own worst enemy when it comes to going off on people! It doesn't shock me that he got banned!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
True, in no small part due to guys like him...This forum isn't always the healthiest place to be.
No delusion here sweety.Don't have any dellusion that he will change his posting style once he comes back. He is who he is. He's frustrated and venting a lot here. He may be able to contain himself for a bit but we all know people don't change. Eventually he will resume true tenacity style.
I'm all for second chances for anyone.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Playherman?We need to unban playherman.
He wasn't so bad. Just working sh!t out like a lot of us are.
Hopefully he's unbanned soon. Figures out what he was doing wrong and focuses on what he was doing right. There were a lot of interesting things in his posts.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.