"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Platonic friendship
- Thread starter Pakwah
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
MacAvoy
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
TheChicGeek
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MacAvoy
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Somebody forgot to tell the 10 guys that answered they can be only friends with the hot girl and NOT want more that this isn't the hot girl asking them and they can be truthful.Pakwah said:
Reminds me of the joke, 97% of guys jerk off, the other 3% don't have arms.
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
can you be friends with a hot girl?
The fact that you notice shes hot, already means that youve thought about ****ing her.
Now your screwed if you become her friend, because the sex thing is already out there, and its gunna come up again and again.
MacAvoy
Banned
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So you can have attractive female friends as long as you're not too close to them.
tr0ublemaker
Don Juan
i have plenty of attractive females as friends..what disinterests me in being intiment with them is probably some incompatible personality feat..so i just be their friend
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
tr0ublemaker said:
yeah your point?
A) The fact that you described them as attractive gets me. If you find her attractive you must want to or have wanted to **** her at some point?tr0ublemaker said:
B) and you can challenge this theory if you want:
The only reason guys talk to an attractive girl is because we want to have sex with them, which brings me round to the first point- you want to poke them and not be friends- the only reason you are friends with them now is because your attempts at phucking them failed.
skip2mylou781
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skip2mylou781
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a)social proof when you and your "friend" go clubbing
b)friends with benefits
yea, that pretty much sums it up
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Have you washed it properly? Either way, this isn't the right place to talk about that. Go to a chicks site.tr0ublemaker said:
The point is, why would we want to be their friend?
To watch your favorite series (Sex and the City) and go shopping? Or how about talking about those men that hurt their feelings and are insecure because they date other women.
"Yeah, he's a Jerk, you can do so much better!"
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.