"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Platonic friendship
- Thread starter Pakwah
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
MacAvoy
Banned
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheChicGeek
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MacAvoy
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Somebody forgot to tell the 10 guys that answered they can be only friends with the hot girl and NOT want more that this isn't the hot girl asking them and they can be truthful.Pakwah said:
Reminds me of the joke, 97% of guys jerk off, the other 3% don't have arms.
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
can you be friends with a hot girl?
The fact that you notice shes hot, already means that youve thought about ****ing her.
Now your screwed if you become her friend, because the sex thing is already out there, and its gunna come up again and again.
MacAvoy
Banned
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So you can have attractive female friends as long as you're not too close to them.
tr0ublemaker
Don Juan
i have plenty of attractive females as friends..what disinterests me in being intiment with them is probably some incompatible personality feat..so i just be their friend
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
tr0ublemaker said:
yeah your point?
A) The fact that you described them as attractive gets me. If you find her attractive you must want to or have wanted to **** her at some point?tr0ublemaker said:
B) and you can challenge this theory if you want:
The only reason guys talk to an attractive girl is because we want to have sex with them, which brings me round to the first point- you want to poke them and not be friends- the only reason you are friends with them now is because your attempts at phucking them failed.
skip2mylou781
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skip2mylou781
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a)social proof when you and your "friend" go clubbing
b)friends with benefits
yea, that pretty much sums it up
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Have you washed it properly? Either way, this isn't the right place to talk about that. Go to a chicks site.tr0ublemaker said:
The point is, why would we want to be their friend?
To watch your favorite series (Sex and the City) and go shopping? Or how about talking about those men that hurt their feelings and are insecure because they date other women.
"Yeah, he's a Jerk, you can do so much better!"
Buck Rogers
Don Juan
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.