"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Platonic friendship

Can u be just friends with a hot chick?

  • Yes

    Votes: 8 38.1%
  • No

    Votes: 13 61.9%

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Pakwah

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Chris Rock said it best -

No man has ever looked at a girl and said, DAMN she's so fine!, she's so fine i wanna make her my friend.

Can it be done??
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Sosa

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When you open your eyes and realize how many attractive females are around; how are you just going to get stuck on banging one especially if you have many attractive female friends.
 

BlackJackal

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I'd have to say no. I usually move on to the next girl instead of wasting my time.
 

pvf94

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No, if you find her attractive. You will never be happy with just being her friend. Unless its your sister or cousin or something....lmao =P
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheChicGeek

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IMHO there is nothing wrong with having plenty of platonic attractive female friends. Its good to pick their brains sometimes for one (although be careful to sift through their responses because a lot of them don't think about why they want what they do), and plus personally I enjoy the company of attractive females, even if I am not fvcking them. It gets a little tricky if you have strong feelings for said girl, in which case I would try to make a move and if she gives you the LJBF, either use some routine or something to get past it, or drop her, I wouldn't want to be THAT guy.
 

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Pakwah said:
im surprised by the results...
Somebody forgot to tell the 10 guys that answered they can be only friends with the hot girl and NOT want more that this isn't the hot girl asking them and they can be truthful.

Reminds me of the joke, 97% of guys jerk off, the other 3% don't have arms.
 

Buck Rogers

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Absolutley not, the answer is in the question.

can you be friends with a hot girl?

The fact that you notice shes hot, already means that youve thought about ****ing her.

Now your screwed if you become her friend, because the sex thing is already out there, and its gunna come up again and again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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vorbis

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yes, theres two parts to this quesiton. Firstly, if she's hot, you'll want to **** her. However, this attraction is the same as the attraction you have for any girl. The second part is do you have feelings for her, if you do you can't be her friend.

So you can have attractive female friends as long as you're not too close to them.
 

tr0ublemaker

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damn you guys really are proving the stereotype that all men only think about sex only

i have plenty of attractive females as friends..what disinterests me in being intiment with them is probably some incompatible personality feat..so i just be their friend
 

Buck Rogers

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tr0ublemaker said:
damn you guys really are proving the stereotype that all men only think about sex only

yeah your point?


tr0ublemaker said:
i have plenty of attractive females as friends..what disinterests me in being intiment with them is probably some incompatible personality feat..so i just be their friend
A) The fact that you described them as attractive gets me. If you find her attractive you must want to or have wanted to **** her at some point?

B) and you can challenge this theory if you want:

The only reason guys talk to an attractive girl is because we want to have sex with them, which brings me round to the first point- you want to poke them and not be friends- the only reason you are friends with them now is because your attempts at phucking them failed.
 

skip2mylou781

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hot girls wouldnt even make good friends........they cant relate to men on a friendship level
 

skip2mylou781

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if anything, the only reason ud ever EVER be friends with a hot girl is

a)social proof when you and your "friend" go clubbing
b)friends with benefits

yea, that pretty much sums it up
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SamePendo

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tr0ublemaker said:
My vagina is feeling itchy today.
Have you washed it properly? Either way, this isn't the right place to talk about that. Go to a chicks site.


The point is, why would we want to be their friend?

To watch your favorite series (Sex and the City) and go shopping? Or how about talking about those men that hurt their feelings and are insecure because they date other women.

"Yeah, he's a Jerk, you can do so much better!"
 

Buck Rogers

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exactly, and when shes talking about that **** all you wanna do is bang her. ance you ever yet if you did you will make yourself look a complete prick, and **** it all up and then goes every chance u ever had.
 

BlackJackal

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Exactly, I gotta enuff real friends. And since I have plenty of women in my own family, there's really no reason to be just friends with a girl I want to f***.
 

Jariel

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Yes, I've got lots of them and have for about 4 years. There has been sexual tension with some of them at times, but generally we just hang out a lot, go to the cinema, drinks, pool and that kind of thing. My girlfriend gets on with many of them too and comes out with us.
 

ye yeah

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i have one hot friend,and she has liked me before and i liked her for a while,and she is so attractive,but i only want her be her friend,and we are getting pretty close,but i can never say that i DONT want to **** her lol,that's what sucks,no matter how much shyt happened with her and that,you wanna be friends and only friends,but you cant ever say you dont wanna have sex with her
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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