"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Platonic female friends
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Consensus was they SUCK unless theyre fvcking you.
"Hes a great guy but not my type"
"Hes nice but i wouldn't fvck him"
You dont want that type of attention.
You need to be fvcking or have fvcked the women who are providing social proof. They need to represent your c0ck, to say "yes I'd **** him, I did fvck him".
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
mrgoodstuff
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Yea fvck that bytch. She was getting a power rush off rejecting you.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Mike32ct
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It can help such a guy get comfortable around women. He won’t score with her. But if he can lose the awkwardness around women by hanging out with her, it can help his game a bit.
That's assuming she's not doing the same thing and once you start doing that, it won't be long before she'll start doing it. So it'll be a wash and then she'll be entertaining other guys, so it won't be long before she's hopping on that cawk.
Yea, the social proof thing is mostly useless I'd say. You're either f*cking them or you're not. Who wants to have a drama filled, selfish, self-serving, "friend" who will throw you overboard at a moment's notice? Sounds like too much work. "Look who I'm friends with, she's hot!" Lol, not worth it.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
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Have you heard the term "boner killers"? Its real.
I live with one, believe me, I know they're real.
mrgoodstuff
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So these "hot" popularity girls wholl happily be your friend while they pursue guys more near the apex. They feed you no sexual energy. Actually mqny times they TOLERATE your presense as if doing you a favor by being seen by you. Did you know in their mindset their male friends (orbiters) are one step ahead of a fully gay male? It was explained by a female...
Thats the energy you bask in around her. She shows thru her actions your not on her level.
Funny, on the open market, my value is way above hers. I make tons of dough, stay in reasonably good shape, I'd be living the f*cking high life, banging as many chicks as I could get my d*ck in if I didn't have that anchor around my neck.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Can't do it, it's a bad look. If you have a platonic female friend then it's obvious she's decided she won't f*ck you, and that's a terrible look to other females.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
speed dawg
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How about some men? Are you scared of them?
Mike32ct
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Yeah I never thought about this in-depth until recently.
I’ve been out enough times where I can easily tell by the body language that she isn’t WITH a certain guy. It’s probably fair to assume that other women can tell too.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You get it. But her sorority or feminism or whatever lets her degrade you like this.
what lets her degrade me like this is the heavy excise tax and loss of my interaction with my kids that the matriarchical court system would enforce upon me with no pre-nup.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
"The system". Old school man would be so busy with his mistress he wouldnt notice his wife...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.