"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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floydtheater07

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Usually I am ok with dealing with situations such as this, but yesterday something happened, which I am a little confused over.

Late at night, a friend IMed me inviting me to her house to a party. She said "S" wanted me there. "S" is my ex. Earlier that day, her and I had been talking on AIM and she was laughing at all my little jokes (well, if "lol" and "hahahaha" counts as real laughing). But when I got to the party, she payed very little attention to me (though, in all fairness, I payed very little attention to her). Now, I had just decided to stop taking my medication, so I was acting really jittery and nervous, so it may have been in my head. Then later, when we were sitting at the table and talking to other people, she woud occasionally move her legs, causing her feet to touch mine. Trying to show confidence, I did not move my legs away. Instead, I just left them there. In turn, she left hers there. This continued throughout the evening, and might suggest some very minor kino.


I am generally asking if her behavior suggested that she was interested, disinterested, or neutral.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dont sugar coat it, we're not youre mommy. You like her and want her back...am i right? If so, attract her and take care of business.
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Dont sugar coat it, we're not youre mommy. You like her and want her back...am i right? If so, attract her and take care of business.
Hmm, I didn't sugar coat it. Of course I want her back, or else I wouldn't care either way if she was interested.
 

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HAHA Oakraiderz got owned again!!! stop telling people to just do it, that's nike's job!

I could give you more, but it would all by my inferences.

She likes you.

yes she likes you.

Her/your friend knows it too.

this is crap, why am I even responding?

The footsies is good, but you did nothing, which is why oakraiderz called you out, you don't like her enough if you won't initiate any of the kino and attention.
 

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Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
HAHA Oakraiderz got owned again!!! stop telling people to just do it, that's nike's job!

...ok, owned again...right
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
HAHA Oakraiderz got owned again!!! stop telling people to just do it, that's nike's job!

I could give you more, but it would all by my inferences.

She likes you.

yes she likes you.

Her/your friend knows it too.

this is crap, why am I even responding?

The footsies is good, but you did nothing, which is why oakraiderz called you out, you don't like her enough if you won't initiate any of the kino and attention.
Thanks. I didn't specify though, that, at the party, she barely spoke to me, and was usually faced away from me. When we did speak, she didn't seem to be excited or anything.

That may just have been the fact that it is awkward to be around an ex. Who knows.
 
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