"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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floydtheater07

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Usually I am ok with dealing with situations such as this, but yesterday something happened, which I am a little confused over.

Late at night, a friend IMed me inviting me to her house to a party. She said "S" wanted me there. "S" is my ex. Earlier that day, her and I had been talking on AIM and she was laughing at all my little jokes (well, if "lol" and "hahahaha" counts as real laughing). But when I got to the party, she payed very little attention to me (though, in all fairness, I payed very little attention to her). Now, I had just decided to stop taking my medication, so I was acting really jittery and nervous, so it may have been in my head. Then later, when we were sitting at the table and talking to other people, she woud occasionally move her legs, causing her feet to touch mine. Trying to show confidence, I did not move my legs away. Instead, I just left them there. In turn, she left hers there. This continued throughout the evening, and might suggest some very minor kino.


I am generally asking if her behavior suggested that she was interested, disinterested, or neutral.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oakraiderz2

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Dont sugar coat it, we're not youre mommy. You like her and want her back...am i right? If so, attract her and take care of business.
 

floydtheater07

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Dont sugar coat it, we're not youre mommy. You like her and want her back...am i right? If so, attract her and take care of business.
Hmm, I didn't sugar coat it. Of course I want her back, or else I wouldn't care either way if she was interested.
 

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HAHA Oakraiderz got owned again!!! stop telling people to just do it, that's nike's job!

I could give you more, but it would all by my inferences.

She likes you.

yes she likes you.

Her/your friend knows it too.

this is crap, why am I even responding?

The footsies is good, but you did nothing, which is why oakraiderz called you out, you don't like her enough if you won't initiate any of the kino and attention.
 

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Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
HAHA Oakraiderz got owned again!!! stop telling people to just do it, that's nike's job!

...ok, owned again...right
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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floydtheater07

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Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
HAHA Oakraiderz got owned again!!! stop telling people to just do it, that's nike's job!

I could give you more, but it would all by my inferences.

She likes you.

yes she likes you.

Her/your friend knows it too.

this is crap, why am I even responding?

The footsies is good, but you did nothing, which is why oakraiderz called you out, you don't like her enough if you won't initiate any of the kino and attention.
Thanks. I didn't specify though, that, at the party, she barely spoke to me, and was usually faced away from me. When we did speak, she didn't seem to be excited or anything.

That may just have been the fact that it is awkward to be around an ex. Who knows.
 
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