"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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open a car wash or finish my computer degree?

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Hi guys,

Im 40 years old and im about 6 months away from finishing an associates degree in computer science degree. Even though I am getting good grades, I went into the computer field just for the money and I dont have a passion for computers. I went back to college because I was fed up with my current career which is working for a water department. Im too old to be digging ditches now. Now im debating on whether to quit the college and just to buy a car wash. Any suggestions on what I should do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BackInTheGame78

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Hi guys,

Im 40 years old and im about 6 months away from finishing an associates degree in computer science degree. Even though I am getting good grades, I went into the computer field just for the money and I dont have a passion for computers. I went back to college because I was fed up with my current career which is working for a water department. Im too old to be digging ditches now. Now im debating on whether to quit the college and just to buy a car wash. Any suggestions on what I should do?
You will get crushed by people like me who are obsessed with programming so the car wash would probably be a better idea.
 

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If you don‘t have drive in IT you will have a hard time staying up to date. If you‘re ok with stagnation an inhouse admin job i.e. would be ok, but not consulting and services.

There are interesting fields like forensics, but ask yourself if you could be happy longterm, when you only stay for some cash.

But you‘re done in half a year. I don‘t know what an associates degree is but I imagine you were working on it some time. Why not finishing it and think about your option with the car wash? Can you start your car wash besides working on finishing your degree?
 

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I would say that computer science, wanting or not, has way more demand that car washing. Even if it's not really what you want, it may be the safest choice that will guarantee a good income. Maybe in the future, when you saved a good money, you can open your own Car Wash and leave the computer science jobs?
 

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You will get crushed by people like me who are obsessed with programming so the car wash would probably be a better idea.
OP, it is a world stage now and competition is fierce. at the same time demand is high. if you don't like doing it, not a nice way to spend so much of your time. As Game78 tells, there are a lot of rock stars already. It can still be done, but need to have interest and motivation.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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metalwater

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a car wash business can make money. lots of ways to sell extra products and services around that and even add more locations to the business. with motivation can get wealthy from doing that. more money than writing code for someone else.
 

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What would you do if money was not an issue?
 
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