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If you're good looking enough to succeed in online dating, you should stick to your strengths 
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BeginningDJ said:If you're good looking enough to succeed in online dating, you should stick to your strengths![]()
This is absolutely correct, girls who go online dont go there expecting anything realistic nor should you. In fact I've told a lot of girls off because their profile sounds like a monkey wrote it. I don't care either, why should you?Naughty Ninja said:Better yet. If you can succeed in online "dating" you'll have less issues with real life approaches and more azz than you know what to do with. So long as you keep online "dating" in perspective and don't go in with the attitude of looking for a wifey online. Then you're asking for trouble with those types of chicks.
I'm sure most who dismiss online dating have either already gotten too emotionally involved and burned by it, or have failed and are doing a lot of talking out of the azz online as if they were getting so much "quality" in real life they wouldn't be on here complaining about chicks who don't use online dating while throwing out BPD every third sentence in the first place.
Bump.Atom Smasher said:That's really not a bad idea, OP. I'll propose it to the forum owner.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You're just the man I'm looking for. I have another thread where I'm trying to get guys who do in-person PU tell about their successes.Plutoman said:I get 2-3 numbers a week just doing my stuff, and getting out, it's been enough for me so far.
Bump( . )( . ) said:Bump.
Any news there Atom? This amount of online dating sh!ts beyond a joke here now.
Even if it was just a sticky post at the top of this page "ALL ONLINE CRAP IN HERE", would be enough.