mrgoodstuff
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He needs to stop talking about it anyways and start living it. With that im taking a 3 months break.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Online dating experts, I need your help
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Good for you man, I need to do the same.
Isn't that what you said you wanted though? Besides, that's not true. You have ZERO experience to be making ass-umptions.
sazc
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Why don't you ask her that question instead of assuming?
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@da dynamically that drunk? Lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"can I fukk you soon or do we have to wait until marriage?"
yea I see that going over like a lead balloon
probably messaged like 50 to 60 women total
any medium to darker cutie. Like I said, darker women are exactly my type as they have the face I'm very attracted to and body I'm very attracted to (thicker, more curvy)...
Don't tell him that, he'll literally talk himself out of it. He just needs to take her out for a no-pressure, fun, flirty date and then come back here for his next steps.
I want sex to happen naturally - say 3th or 4th date for example. I'm not interested in a no sex until marriage chick
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sazc
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I don't see any harm, in an attempt to establish compatibility, in asking her how religious she is, does she pray n times daily, does she not blah blah, is she waiting till marriage.
It's all in the way you phrase the question.
I won't ask any hard questions anymore. just keep things simple and straightforward and I'll be fine
sazc
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Why don't you take her out a few times and find out if she's waiting for marriage? You're ASSuming yourself out of a woman
GAWD you make everything so difficult on yourself
she told me she's not religious at all, she told me her family is but they don't bother her about it anymore
Hahahaha...you can't even get a 1st date, why don't we worry about that for now?
But remember who you're talking to here...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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So she will bang, what's the problem?
I'm working on getting her out on a date
but I need more options, I can't win this so called dating game with 1 or 2 girls
even with her not being religious, I'm sure her family has pounded idea in her head of no sex until marriage
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That's why you get her out on a date.
What's to work on? Ask "let's meet for coffee Monday night"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.