mrgoodstuff
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He needs to stop talking about it anyways and start living it. With that im taking a 3 months break.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Online dating experts, I need your help
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Good for you man, I need to do the same.
Isn't that what you said you wanted though? Besides, that's not true. You have ZERO experience to be making ass-umptions.
sazc
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Why don't you ask her that question instead of assuming?
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@da dynamically that drunk? Lol
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"can I fukk you soon or do we have to wait until marriage?"
yea I see that going over like a lead balloon
probably messaged like 50 to 60 women total
any medium to darker cutie. Like I said, darker women are exactly my type as they have the face I'm very attracted to and body I'm very attracted to (thicker, more curvy)...
Don't tell him that, he'll literally talk himself out of it. He just needs to take her out for a no-pressure, fun, flirty date and then come back here for his next steps.
I want sex to happen naturally - say 3th or 4th date for example. I'm not interested in a no sex until marriage chick
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I don't see any harm, in an attempt to establish compatibility, in asking her how religious she is, does she pray n times daily, does she not blah blah, is she waiting till marriage.
It's all in the way you phrase the question.
I won't ask any hard questions anymore. just keep things simple and straightforward and I'll be fine
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Why don't you take her out a few times and find out if she's waiting for marriage? You're ASSuming yourself out of a woman
GAWD you make everything so difficult on yourself
she told me she's not religious at all, she told me her family is but they don't bother her about it anymore
Hahahaha...you can't even get a 1st date, why don't we worry about that for now?
But remember who you're talking to here...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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So she will bang, what's the problem?
I'm working on getting her out on a date
but I need more options, I can't win this so called dating game with 1 or 2 girls
even with her not being religious, I'm sure her family has pounded idea in her head of no sex until marriage
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That's why you get her out on a date.
What's to work on? Ask "let's meet for coffee Monday night"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.