You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
crossboss said:I'd like to get better at my game, I was wondering if anybody wanted to work one on one with me. I'd be willing to help anybody with their game as well.
Experienced people only.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Any kind, of self-improvement is necessary.COD said:U GOT THAT MANY POSTS ON HERE AND U WANT TRAINING...........thats reassuring (your prior posts validity)
anyways.........the training goes like this.
1) INNER GAME :research, know the terms, practice, make attempts, etc.
2) INTERNET GAMING:IM'S, CHATS, EMAILS, DATING SITES, ACCUMULATE #'S
3) DIGITS TO DATES: making the #;s u got into actual dates by your flirtation tactic on the phone.
4) SPEED DATING: face 2 face mini dates with 12-15 women in a few hours, work on small talk skills, then guage your success matches.
5) BAR/CLUBS: warm appraoches, mystery method, negs,dhv,wingman etc.
6) DAY GAME: moving targets, non-date atmosphere pick ups, etc.
7) SEX:the ultimate close, gotta have a few under your belt before you can WRITE ANY MORE ARTICLES.
8) DATING: some sort of relationship with same chic.
9) TWO OR MORE: bedding a stripper, 3some,etc.
10) TEACH:instruct, write a book, get your own vh1 show, develop a system.
U are going to have to do # 1 by yourself, then u can proceed to #2. # close, kiss close, F--k close in each level.
Internet is outsourcing but truly requires a skill set to master (20-100 women in 30 days or less). Real skills come with cold approaching THE RIGHT WAY........any moron can get rejected 20 times a day.
It easy to just steal tips from here but you are missing the rest of the puzzle to complete the whole picture. IT begins with research though, actual testing in the field and then re-evaluation to fine tune. TEST yourself when u get the desired results.
But coaching 1 on 1 can come in numerous forms............virtual (online) semi-virtual- phone consultation, live in the field from your wingman, Live from an instructor (costly), boot camps, books/guides/programs/dvd's/pod casts.
how serious are you and how much money are you willing to spend and lastly what do you wish to gain in the end.
I would start with research, reading, then buy a book, then a program, then sign up to which ever no cold approach enviroment you desire.
U need to write stuff down (journal, blogg) and measure your success.