"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Yeah , I like this chick but cmon , I can't get her out fo my mind. Especially when listening to songs like

"Growing On Me - The Darkness"

How to get rid of it?
Thnks :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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oh dammit. reminds me of a couple of songs that stick in my head and remind me of my ex.

songs like i dont like to sleep alone

and all i need is the air that i breathe.

hahaha.

yeah my afc days

simple answer to a simple question

dont listen to these songs. keep everything that belongs to her or reminds you of her in a box and stash it somewhere. try to get on with your life... you mean its not possible for you to pursue this girl? mine was a hopeless case.
 

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Yes the song is the sh1t.But I wan't to persue her but if im constantly thinking about her , I feel like im coming off desperate. I'm gonna get going for this monday.
 

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yellowcard- only one

pretty afc.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Stop with the songs !! =P
More on how to get her off my mind. I think about her going to bed , when im idle (watching tv) , when im getting ready for school. GOD I'm an AFC. :( . More bible reading for me .
 

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you havent answered me.... is it impossible for you to get with this girl?
 

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then go for it mate. dont live a lifetime of regret like me.

i wish i took more care in my past relationship.

go for it if you can

really. shy girls are usually the best for long term relationships.
 

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Yeh , she can be funny too , and she is smart. She is just almost to good , thats why I feel scared,but I migh aswell not give yp
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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remember nothing is TOO GOOD for you

whatever she may be, there'll always be someone else out there who is a notch above her

think of yourself as the great catch.

but be prepared to lose her

in this way, you wont overanalyze things and you'll be more relaxed around her

look at the last phrase from my signature... all the best mate :D
 

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Yeah tell the boy nothing is too good for him. That's obviously why he is in the situation he is in.

God damn. Do something with your ****ing lives. Daydreaming about girls all ****ing day... jesus. Do you pray to god to get some ***** too?

Get some self respect and stop getting by, you ****.
 

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Originally posted by jakeyboy
remember nothing is TOO GOOD for you

whatever she may be, there'll always be someone else out there who is a notch above her
haha i hate reading that beacuse[and i guess it should do this] it ALWAYS makes me question if I am settling for less than I'm worth. If i follow this rule with all my heart...I'd never get pvssy.

Don't listen to those songs, refrain from talking about ehr to others and I def suggest talk/flirting with other girls jsut as practice.
I say you should chill for a week before you move in for the kill. Doesn't seem like your oneitis is THAT bad, so a weeka dn you should eb clear fi you TALK TO OTHER GIRLS.
also the msot important thing: be active. Tomorrow, so something with people afterschool, when you get home pop in a movie[not a love movie!] and then do your homework, and pass the **** out. With dinner in there somewhere lol.
goodluck bro.
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Yeah tell the boy nothing is too good for him. That's obviously why he is in the situation he is in.

God damn. Do something with your ****ing lives. Daydreaming about girls all ****ing day... jesus. Do you pray to god to get some ***** too?

Get some self respect and stop getting by, you ****.
I pray for pvssy . . .:(

I always wanted a cat.
 

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hmm so I went to school today , I learned that she might be interested int his other guy , so I think I should go for it now...becuase soon he mayb taken
any other advice
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GO FOR IT..can't make it any more plain and simple as that. Block that other guy out of your mind. He doesn't exist. Most of your regrets come from things you never did, but you wish you had.


Man, I can remember listening to songs that reminded me of chicks after they'd reject me..ahh those were the days..haha Kinda weird how you can change soo fast..Anyway, just stay away from the Emo..it'll kill you
 

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Any good songs which are geared towards not beiong an afc?
 

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Play that song while you are having a good time in the house... like a party or when youre just getting drunk with your pals... or any happy thing you can associate with that song.

It happens... People associate songs with a girl... It happened to me to before. I played the song when I was getting drunk and I think I remember singing it in a drunken tone of voice and all my pals were laughin at me and we all laughed together and its fun... :)
 

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Wtf? songs won't help you over come your fear of talking to her. Just talk. Whats the worst that can happen?
 

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Rejection. But I guess it wont kill me.Or atleast I hope not.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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