scrouds
Master Don Juan
Time to hide assets and shop for lawyers.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
On the brink of cheating
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
Just spent some time reading through this thread - I think its important for the rest of us to remember that no matter how bad it went with that sexy girl who ran off after a few months, it can always be worse. You could have gotten married and ended up in a horrible place, like this guy.
You're right, it seems like the OP is too clouded right now to actually make the hard choices and take charge. In the end, it seems, the answer to ALL issues about women is independence, non-attachment, and the ability to walk if things turn to sh!t. The OP is unable to think this way right now, and so his problems will continue.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Viagra4Soul
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I've been through this - the female councellor spent the best part of a year placating her, and ignoring my concerns completely.
When I finally got some one-on-one time, without my partner there, and explained my situation fully over 45 mins, the counsellor spent the last 15 mins telling me "she would have done this to anyone, not just you" and asking me to please drag her sorry ass back in there so she could work on my partner's issues alone. The Ex never went back, and we broke up (mutual agreement) a month later.
Not worth your time - this relationship is done. The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be.
When I finally got some one-on-one time, without my partner there, and explained my situation fully over 45 mins, the counsellor spent the last 15 mins telling me "she would have done this to anyone, not just you" and asking me to please drag her sorry ass back in there so she could work on my partner's issues alone. The Ex never went back, and we broke up (mutual agreement) a month later.
Not worth your time - this relationship is done. The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be.
alphaace
Don Juan
So umm, why were so many posts deleted? I think I missed quite a bit of story here.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Couple's Counseling = Last stop before toll.
Mr.Positive
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I've often wondered if couple's counseling is just another way to beat a guy down further, by placing all the issues on his shoulders.Rollo Tomassi said:
Honestly,
The only real needs I've got from women is no drama, a happy fun person to be with...and lot's of sex. If a woman is so selfish to not even attempt to meet this simple list that makes me happy, I walk away.
So, with marriage, 'counseling' is needed. Is a woman's selfishness even addressed, or is all the blame placed on the guy?
I wish Chuck all the best. I just don't think counseling with some raging feminist is going to fix a person who is just selfish, and uncaring, as Chuck's wife is. If anything, it will probably make things worse.
Chuck, there's a great quote in an above post....tough times don't last, tough people do.
The future will get better, be strong Brother!!!