Master Don Juan
- Jan 22, 2005
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ChuckNoRisk said:I've been with this woman since 1996 and through our dating phase and getting married, her "I-want-it-my-way" trait has always emerged and I happily succumbed to it as a way to prevent conflict. I guess I was also too eager to please and to show I was different from her ex.
In fact, I do not get along with her second younger brother because he exhibits the same "i-want-it-my-way" attitude. Again, the blame is on me, and my coming to this forum was really falling on my sword and asking you guys to help me dust my boots and start walking tall again.
Chuck, good on you for taking all of our advice in stride. As you can see there are some pretty strong opinions on what you should do once a marriage goes sour. Only you know the full context of your story with her. I just want to reiterate too that it's not ALL you; owning your part in all of this is very important as a Man but let's face it, your wife's b1tchy, her-way-or-the-highway personality leaning is a HUGE component. Not all women would react that way given your behavior; but then again your behavior may have been different with a different woman. Relationships are dynamic.
I'll caution you against doing too much too soon with her, as it may backfire. In other words you cant go from your normal placating self to uber-as$hole in a day. There HAVE been success stories here of guys who have turned things around with their cvnty wives...recently too. However if you decided to hit the old dusty trail and start fresh none of us would blame you.
Definitely keep us posted on your progress.