On the brink of cheating

[scrouds]

Time to hide assets and shop for lawyers.

 

[AW1983]

Update Chuck?

 

[AMDG]

Some people will never learn.

 

[Serg897]

Just spent some time reading through this thread - I think its important for the rest of us to remember that no matter how bad it went with that sexy girl who ran off after a few months, it can always be worse. You could have gotten married and ended up in a horrible place, like this guy.

Some people will never learn.

You're right, it seems like the OP is too clouded right now to actually make the hard choices and take charge. In the end, it seems, the answer to ALL issues about women is independence, non-attachment, and the ability to walk if things turn to sh!t. The OP is unable to think this way right now, and so his problems will continue.

 

[Nutz]

The update is that he thinks counseling will change her position. He has pain coming if he goes down that road, but that is the only way some people will learn.

/facepalm


Couples counseling = trying to negotiate attraction. It just doesn't work that way.

 

[Viagra4Soul]

I've been through this - the female councellor spent the best part of a year placating her, and ignoring my concerns completely.

When I finally got some one-on-one time, without my partner there, and explained my situation fully over 45 mins, the counsellor spent the last 15 mins telling me "she would have done this to anyone, not just you" and asking me to please drag her sorry ass back in there so she could work on my partner's issues alone. The Ex never went back, and we broke up (mutual agreement) a month later.

Not worth your time - this relationship is done. The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be.

 

[alphaace]

So umm, why were so many posts deleted? I think I missed quite a bit of story here.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Couple's Counseling = Last stop before toll.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Couple's Counseling = Last stop before toll.

I've often wondered if couple's counseling is just another way to beat a guy down further, by placing all the issues on his shoulders.

Honestly,

The only real needs I've got from women is no drama, a happy fun person to be with...and lot's of sex. If a woman is so selfish to not even attempt to meet this simple list that makes me happy, I walk away.

So, with marriage, 'counseling' is needed. Is a woman's selfishness even addressed, or is all the blame placed on the guy?

I wish Chuck all the best. I just don't think counseling with some raging feminist is going to fix a person who is just selfish, and uncaring, as Chuck's wife is. If anything, it will probably make things worse.

Chuck, there's a great quote in an above post....tough times don't last, tough people do.

The future will get better, be strong Brother!!!