scrouds
Master Don Juan
Time to hide assets and shop for lawyers.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
On the brink of cheating
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
Just spent some time reading through this thread - I think its important for the rest of us to remember that no matter how bad it went with that sexy girl who ran off after a few months, it can always be worse. You could have gotten married and ended up in a horrible place, like this guy.
You're right, it seems like the OP is too clouded right now to actually make the hard choices and take charge. In the end, it seems, the answer to ALL issues about women is independence, non-attachment, and the ability to walk if things turn to sh!t. The OP is unable to think this way right now, and so his problems will continue.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Viagra4Soul
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I've been through this - the female councellor spent the best part of a year placating her, and ignoring my concerns completely.
When I finally got some one-on-one time, without my partner there, and explained my situation fully over 45 mins, the counsellor spent the last 15 mins telling me "she would have done this to anyone, not just you" and asking me to please drag her sorry ass back in there so she could work on my partner's issues alone. The Ex never went back, and we broke up (mutual agreement) a month later.
Not worth your time - this relationship is done. The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be.
When I finally got some one-on-one time, without my partner there, and explained my situation fully over 45 mins, the counsellor spent the last 15 mins telling me "she would have done this to anyone, not just you" and asking me to please drag her sorry ass back in there so she could work on my partner's issues alone. The Ex never went back, and we broke up (mutual agreement) a month later.
Not worth your time - this relationship is done. The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be.
alphaace
Don Juan
So umm, why were so many posts deleted? I think I missed quite a bit of story here.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Couple's Counseling = Last stop before toll.
Mr.Positive
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I've often wondered if couple's counseling is just another way to beat a guy down further, by placing all the issues on his shoulders.Rollo Tomassi said:
Honestly,
The only real needs I've got from women is no drama, a happy fun person to be with...and lot's of sex. If a woman is so selfish to not even attempt to meet this simple list that makes me happy, I walk away.
So, with marriage, 'counseling' is needed. Is a woman's selfishness even addressed, or is all the blame placed on the guy?
I wish Chuck all the best. I just don't think counseling with some raging feminist is going to fix a person who is just selfish, and uncaring, as Chuck's wife is. If anything, it will probably make things worse.
Chuck, there's a great quote in an above post....tough times don't last, tough people do.
The future will get better, be strong Brother!!!