Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Why would it be cruel to next her because of the kid? You have every right to walk away. You don't have to be her knight in shining armor. She made a mistake and she's dealing with it. You are under no obligation to help her with HER OWN problem. If anything, it would be cruel to a man to expect much of him when she is mothering someone else's child.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've gotta be kidding me. You're in high school. She's in high school. She has a kid. She didn't even tell you about it right away. Get away from her, she's bad news.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.