Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why would it be cruel to next her because of the kid? You have every right to walk away. You don't have to be her knight in shining armor. She made a mistake and she's dealing with it. You are under no obligation to help her with HER OWN problem. If anything, it would be cruel to a man to expect much of him when she is mothering someone else's child.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've gotta be kidding me. You're in high school. She's in high school. She has a kid. She didn't even tell you about it right away. Get away from her, she's bad news.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.