You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Why would it be cruel to next her because of the kid? You have every right to walk away. You don't have to be her knight in shining armor. She made a mistake and she's dealing with it. You are under no obligation to help her with HER OWN problem. If anything, it would be cruel to a man to expect much of him when she is mothering someone else's child.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've gotta be kidding me. You're in high school. She's in high school. She has a kid. She didn't even tell you about it right away. Get away from her, she's bad news.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.