Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why would it be cruel to next her because of the kid? You have every right to walk away. You don't have to be her knight in shining armor. She made a mistake and she's dealing with it. You are under no obligation to help her with HER OWN problem. If anything, it would be cruel to a man to expect much of him when she is mothering someone else's child.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've gotta be kidding me. You're in high school. She's in high school. She has a kid. She didn't even tell you about it right away. Get away from her, she's bad news.redspicyflag said:Wow I have been shocked today. I am a soph in hs and have been going out with a senior for the past two weeks at this tech school. Anyways, today she was acting weird then I find out she has a 9 month kid. What is a dj to do? I want to live by a code of honor and it would seem cruel to next her because of this. I've also been on SS for a while and it has help me got my gf. What would a good dj do?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.