"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hi Zimbabwe,
Liked your observation "Guess Men are supposed to know what woman need. I suspect that this is the cause of the end of many relationships"...When things were rocky with Wife no two,I asked what her problem was,"Well if you don't know,it's not much good my telling you"was her response...Another time a similar request asking what she was looking for,brought the response'There's just got to be something more hasn't there?",I just replied "Why?"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stumbled over this video clip..

Thoughts? :cool:
This sums up a lot of what we try to do here.Succinctly speaks on what women are and how they think about men. I would show this video to a newbie to the manosphere to get him started.
 

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.......yes this women knows it all......sarcasm.....


but he is speaking facts
 
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i’m not sure if irony or paradox is the appropriate word to describe a lot of male attitudes on this forum. And yes I also laugh at my own attitudes as well so I’m not singling certain people out.

Think about it. Seriously.

The majority, if not all of us joined this site because we encountered women that we were attracted to, yet knew better, but still found ourselves attracted to them.. and desiring them.

And yet, a lot of members fail to see their own hypocrisy. Have I been a hypocrite as well? Yes the difference, is that I now own it. Hopefully more of you will too, soon.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This sums up a lot of what we try to do here.Succinctly speaks on what women are and how they think about men. I would show this video to a newbie to the manosphere to get him started.
That first face might as well be a rubber mask
 

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i’m not sure if irony or paradox is the appropriate word to describe a lot of male attitudes on this forum. And yes I also laugh at my own attitudes as well so I’m not singling certain people out.

Think about it. Seriously.

The majority, if not all of us joined this site because we encountered women that we were attracted to, yet knew better, but still found ourselves attracted to them.. and desiring them.

And yet, a lot of members fail to see their own hypocrisy. Have I been a hypocrite as well? Yes the difference, is that I now own it. Hopefully more of you will too, soon.
Very good point chief. Do you think abudance helps with this, or even if you have several 'plates' in rotation, its still difficult (for most) to overcome natural draw to the one that you know could create more issues down the line?

I've certainly given passes to more attractive women in the past, putting aside more 'sensible' choices I had available. That was in my 20's so maybe wouldn;t be so foolish in future, but who knows...

Did stick around with attractive woman a year or so ago for a few months beyond when alarm bells/red flags were appearing. But that was due to lack of 'abundance' in hindsight.
 
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So this brings up the chicken and the egg problem. I would argue that women like alphas in spite of their indifference. The female was attracted to the guy first. This cultivated indifference in the man which made her like him more.

Indifference can't help you that much if there is no initial high level interests on her part. But being desperate and clingy will nuke your chances.
 
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So this brings up the chicken and the egg problem. I would argue that women like alphas in spite of their indifference. The female was attracted to the guy first. This cultivated indifference in the man which made her like him more.

Indifference can't help you that much if there is no initial high level interests on her part. But being desperate and clingy will nuke your chances.
Pandora's box?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I've certainly given passes to more attractive women in the past, putting aside more 'sensible' choices I had available. That was in my 20's so maybe wouldn;t be so foolish in future, but who knows...
Any man with options has likely done the same thing (I have some earlier regrets as well). Speaking for myself, I didn't start thinking more clearly until my 50's. I suppose that until hormones settle down a little, our desires are usually going to override our logic.
 

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For his intro, 0:37 to 2:00...

I agree completely about "Not getting the woman you REALLY want." Or the flip side where the women you don't really want are chasing you.

But I honestly don't think it's because of behavior so much. I think it is primarily a looks issue. For one person, their "crush" is their ideal looks type, but their crush doesn't feel that way and views them as so so lookswise.

TLDR: Working too hard to try to get someone is a symptom, not the underlying disease.
 
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Those 99% are useful for the system and society in getting control on you, bringing you down, and making your position and movements known. So while it's not useful for you, it's useful for other entities.
Funny you bring this up. I had a fwb for a time that, loooking back on things, I think she was either trying to groom me to become a revolutionary assassin or trying to figure out if I was one
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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