"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Old Woman talks about the true nature of women [YouTube]

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi Zimbabwe,
Liked your observation "Guess Men are supposed to know what woman need. I suspect that this is the cause of the end of many relationships"...When things were rocky with Wife no two,I asked what her problem was,"Well if you don't know,it's not much good my telling you"was her response...Another time a similar request asking what she was looking for,brought the response'There's just got to be something more hasn't there?",I just replied "Why?"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stumbled over this video clip..

Thoughts? :cool:
This sums up a lot of what we try to do here.Succinctly speaks on what women are and how they think about men. I would show this video to a newbie to the manosphere to get him started.
 

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.......yes this women knows it all......sarcasm.....


but he is speaking facts
 
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i’m not sure if irony or paradox is the appropriate word to describe a lot of male attitudes on this forum. And yes I also laugh at my own attitudes as well so I’m not singling certain people out.

Think about it. Seriously.

The majority, if not all of us joined this site because we encountered women that we were attracted to, yet knew better, but still found ourselves attracted to them.. and desiring them.

And yet, a lot of members fail to see their own hypocrisy. Have I been a hypocrite as well? Yes the difference, is that I now own it. Hopefully more of you will too, soon.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This sums up a lot of what we try to do here.Succinctly speaks on what women are and how they think about men. I would show this video to a newbie to the manosphere to get him started.
That first face might as well be a rubber mask
 

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i’m not sure if irony or paradox is the appropriate word to describe a lot of male attitudes on this forum. And yes I also laugh at my own attitudes as well so I’m not singling certain people out.

Think about it. Seriously.

The majority, if not all of us joined this site because we encountered women that we were attracted to, yet knew better, but still found ourselves attracted to them.. and desiring them.

And yet, a lot of members fail to see their own hypocrisy. Have I been a hypocrite as well? Yes the difference, is that I now own it. Hopefully more of you will too, soon.
Very good point chief. Do you think abudance helps with this, or even if you have several 'plates' in rotation, its still difficult (for most) to overcome natural draw to the one that you know could create more issues down the line?

I've certainly given passes to more attractive women in the past, putting aside more 'sensible' choices I had available. That was in my 20's so maybe wouldn;t be so foolish in future, but who knows...

Did stick around with attractive woman a year or so ago for a few months beyond when alarm bells/red flags were appearing. But that was due to lack of 'abundance' in hindsight.
 
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So this brings up the chicken and the egg problem. I would argue that women like alphas in spite of their indifference. The female was attracted to the guy first. This cultivated indifference in the man which made her like him more.

Indifference can't help you that much if there is no initial high level interests on her part. But being desperate and clingy will nuke your chances.
 
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So this brings up the chicken and the egg problem. I would argue that women like alphas in spite of their indifference. The female was attracted to the guy first. This cultivated indifference in the man which made her like him more.

Indifference can't help you that much if there is no initial high level interests on her part. But being desperate and clingy will nuke your chances.
Pandora's box?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've certainly given passes to more attractive women in the past, putting aside more 'sensible' choices I had available. That was in my 20's so maybe wouldn;t be so foolish in future, but who knows...
Any man with options has likely done the same thing (I have some earlier regrets as well). Speaking for myself, I didn't start thinking more clearly until my 50's. I suppose that until hormones settle down a little, our desires are usually going to override our logic.
 

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For his intro, 0:37 to 2:00...

I agree completely about "Not getting the woman you REALLY want." Or the flip side where the women you don't really want are chasing you.

But I honestly don't think it's because of behavior so much. I think it is primarily a looks issue. For one person, their "crush" is their ideal looks type, but their crush doesn't feel that way and views them as so so lookswise.

TLDR: Working too hard to try to get someone is a symptom, not the underlying disease.
 
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Those 99% are useful for the system and society in getting control on you, bringing you down, and making your position and movements known. So while it's not useful for you, it's useful for other entities.
Funny you bring this up. I had a fwb for a time that, loooking back on things, I think she was either trying to groom me to become a revolutionary assassin or trying to figure out if I was one
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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