"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OLD flake rate

skinnyguy

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My rate of getting flaked on from OLD is 50% and this is even after they text to confirm the date the night before.

My flake rate from approaching is practically 0.

The girls who see my pics online tell me I’m handsome. What gives?

I have a date setup on Thursday night with HB 8.5. She’s blowing up my phone but it’s almost guaranteed she will flake.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.

A lot of guys are doing the same thing these days(flaking/ghosting) apparently and if you dont stay in touch they assume you are one of them and make other plans. Some will reach out but many won't.

I had the same issue as you and when I started doing that it dropped to maybe like 5%
 
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Probably because the women in OLD are attention seekers, for the most part. It's easier for them to get the attention and validation they desire online. Once they get that, they'll bounce or keep you around.
 

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.

A lot of guys are doing the same thing these days apparently and if you dont stay in touch they assume you are one of them and make other plans. Some will reach out but many won't.
This actually makes a lot of sense. Duly noted.
 

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.
This is so true. That's why it's best to set a date as fast as possible. More than 2 days away and there's a good chance it doesn't happen.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you setup a date within four days, they do not flake. Anything longer, then something better may come along; thus they flake. I disagree on confirming. If the woman is interested enough in you, she'll confirm for you. The only flakes/cancellations I've had was when they were away and we set up something for when she got back into town. Since those issues, I just wait until they get back into town and then reach out. Looks better and looks like you have options. You never want to be seen as a man who's waiting around for a woman.
 
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