"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OLD flake rate

skinnyguy

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My rate of getting flaked on from OLD is 50% and this is even after they text to confirm the date the night before.

My flake rate from approaching is practically 0.

The girls who see my pics online tell me I’m handsome. What gives?

I have a date setup on Thursday night with HB 8.5. She’s blowing up my phone but it’s almost guaranteed she will flake.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.

A lot of guys are doing the same thing these days(flaking/ghosting) apparently and if you dont stay in touch they assume you are one of them and make other plans. Some will reach out but many won't.

I had the same issue as you and when I started doing that it dropped to maybe like 5%
 
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Probably because the women in OLD are attention seekers, for the most part. It's easier for them to get the attention and validation they desire online. Once they get that, they'll bounce or keep you around.
 

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.

A lot of guys are doing the same thing these days apparently and if you dont stay in touch they assume you are one of them and make other plans. Some will reach out but many won't.
This actually makes a lot of sense. Duly noted.
 

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.
This is so true. That's why it's best to set a date as fast as possible. More than 2 days away and there's a good chance it doesn't happen.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you setup a date within four days, they do not flake. Anything longer, then something better may come along; thus they flake. I disagree on confirming. If the woman is interested enough in you, she'll confirm for you. The only flakes/cancellations I've had was when they were away and we set up something for when she got back into town. Since those issues, I just wait until they get back into town and then reach out. Looks better and looks like you have options. You never want to be seen as a man who's waiting around for a woman.
 
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