"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OLD flake rate

skinnyguy

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My rate of getting flaked on from OLD is 50% and this is even after they text to confirm the date the night before.

My flake rate from approaching is practically 0.

The girls who see my pics online tell me I’m handsome. What gives?

I have a date setup on Thursday night with HB 8.5. She’s blowing up my phone but it’s almost guaranteed she will flake.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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marmel75

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.

A lot of guys are doing the same thing these days(flaking/ghosting) apparently and if you dont stay in touch they assume you are one of them and make other plans. Some will reach out but many won't.

I had the same issue as you and when I started doing that it dropped to maybe like 5%
 
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Probably because the women in OLD are attention seekers, for the most part. It's easier for them to get the attention and validation they desire online. Once they get that, they'll bounce or keep you around.
 

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.

A lot of guys are doing the same thing these days apparently and if you dont stay in touch they assume you are one of them and make other plans. Some will reach out but many won't.
This actually makes a lot of sense. Duly noted.
 

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My flake rate on OLD dropped to near zero when I stopped going ghost up until the date and stayed in contact via a text or two a day.
This is so true. That's why it's best to set a date as fast as possible. More than 2 days away and there's a good chance it doesn't happen.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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R.U.G.

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If you setup a date within four days, they do not flake. Anything longer, then something better may come along; thus they flake. I disagree on confirming. If the woman is interested enough in you, she'll confirm for you. The only flakes/cancellations I've had was when they were away and we set up something for when she got back into town. Since those issues, I just wait until they get back into town and then reach out. Looks better and looks like you have options. You never want to be seen as a man who's waiting around for a woman.
 
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