"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Oklahoma DJ's

Mr. Delicious

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Anyone from Oklahoma especially Stillwater or Tulsa? It would be cool to meet a real DJ in person or just know someone in person who is on this site.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Intense

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I'm from Kansas City but I make the occasional trip to Tulsa.
 
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yo dude, I live in Fayetteville(ark) only about an hour and half from your area.
 

gr8tnezz

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I'm in OKC and have a pretty good base going here. If there are any in my area, reply because there is alot of work we need to be doing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mr. Delicious

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I posted this a while ago. Its been a long time since I have been to the site. I now live full time in Tulsa. However, currently now in Tulsa, all the girls I know either have boyfriends, or do not live in Tulsa :(
 

Pilot

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Oklahoma City DJ-in-training :)

I'm new to the area, don't really know a lot of people - all the guys I know are horrible with approaching/talking to women. It'd be cool to hang out with some guys who aren't idiots. Anybody else in OKC area?
 

Hypoxia II

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OKC here.. Work in Tulsa.. I can go to either.
 

terminator911

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Anyone in OKC area? Looking for some experienced Dons to hang out with and maybe get out there for some good hunting :crackup:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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