"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Okcupid glitch?

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Has anyone experienced this before? I'll have random moments where no one views my profile and/or get no replies even if I'm messaging a bunch of women.

Then a day or two later my inbox blows up with replies to my messages all at the same time. I've even had one woman say that she was just now getting my message which was sent days sometimes a week ago.

It's like okc holds off messages, maybe an overload in their server? Happens often but not too frequent. Used to think women just weren't interested until I noticed the pattern of my inbox within seconds being filled with replies.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you visit the page it shoots your profile pic to the top of the "list" so more women see your profile when you are active. Think this explains what you are seeing?
 

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SgtSplacker said:
If you visit the page it shoots your profile pic to the top of the "list" so more women see your profile when you are active. Think this explains what you are seeing?
If I visit what page?
 

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For anyone that may be experiencing this as well, I figured it out.

Talked to a friend who knows someone that recently was asked to become a moderator for okc. Apparently they ask random people who've been on for a while and haven't broken any rules if they'd like to become one.

He says my account is most likely suspended because it was flagged for something. This could be for spamming (sending out copy/paste messages) which honestly I do, something with one of my pictures or profile.

Okc does not inform you, they just que your profile to be checked for the complaint and it's either allowed to be active or gets taken down but in the interim your messages don't get delivered and your profile is hard to find.

I just disabled it and made another, almost identical and have been getting replies/page views. Definitely interesting to figure all this out.
 

Poonani Maker

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yup, they asked me to be a mod, and then later I have the same "glitch" a woman can just be believed by them instantly and then you're guilty as charged, too bad we can't get them flagged, they are immune
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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