"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Okcupid glitch?

tryst type

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Has anyone experienced this before? I'll have random moments where no one views my profile and/or get no replies even if I'm messaging a bunch of women.

Then a day or two later my inbox blows up with replies to my messages all at the same time. I've even had one woman say that she was just now getting my message which was sent days sometimes a week ago.

It's like okc holds off messages, maybe an overload in their server? Happens often but not too frequent. Used to think women just weren't interested until I noticed the pattern of my inbox within seconds being filled with replies.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SgtSplacker

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If you visit the page it shoots your profile pic to the top of the "list" so more women see your profile when you are active. Think this explains what you are seeing?
 

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SgtSplacker said:
If you visit the page it shoots your profile pic to the top of the "list" so more women see your profile when you are active. Think this explains what you are seeing?
If I visit what page?
 

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For anyone that may be experiencing this as well, I figured it out.

Talked to a friend who knows someone that recently was asked to become a moderator for okc. Apparently they ask random people who've been on for a while and haven't broken any rules if they'd like to become one.

He says my account is most likely suspended because it was flagged for something. This could be for spamming (sending out copy/paste messages) which honestly I do, something with one of my pictures or profile.

Okc does not inform you, they just que your profile to be checked for the complaint and it's either allowed to be active or gets taken down but in the interim your messages don't get delivered and your profile is hard to find.

I just disabled it and made another, almost identical and have been getting replies/page views. Definitely interesting to figure all this out.
 

Poonani Maker

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yup, they asked me to be a mod, and then later I have the same "glitch" a woman can just be believed by them instantly and then you're guilty as charged, too bad we can't get them flagged, they are immune
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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