"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So last saturday I took this girl to the freshman formal and we danced, made out, and cuddled. Now we're officially bf/gf situation. I talked w/ her last night and she wants to take this slow and get to know each other more before we move ahead. She liked what happened Saturday night but apparently thinks it was fast. She didn't expect me to take her behind the curtains on the dancefloor and kiss her:D

Also, this girl wanted to sit down at a lounge while we were leaving the club... but it was empty so we were all alone... do you guys think she wanted me to make a move? because i did while we were sitting on the couch

Question is how do I get her to want it more than I do? I'm trying to seduce her more than have it seem like I'm the one wanting all the physical stuff.

No dumb**** answers please.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mind control chip implanted in the back of the right ear should work
 
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she'll grace herself into it just keep doing what you're doing. Just respect her if she says a firm "No!" ie the Rape call.
 
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Just out of curiosity... You're 17 but you went to the Freshman Formal? Are you a freshman, or is she?

Moved to HS...
 
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freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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she's a sophomore and i'm a freshman at the same uni:p

supergigolodj, i straight up asked her if we were bf/gf coz my last relationship was not clear so i had to get **** straightened out first hand... so being exclusive/ not exclusive is out of the question...

i'll keep the second point in mind though... what else you guys got?
 
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Originally posted by Zhen
freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
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wow

Your getting a b-itch slap for talking to a mod like that, cause thats just stupid.

idiot :rolleyes:
 
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i think mr. debonaire is a *****

apparently i'm the first guy she's kissed and although she's 20, she's never thought of kissing a guy until it's a serious relationship.

it's gonna be fun taking her out of that shell:)
 
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When a girl says "we're moving to fast" I hear "I really like you but I don't want you to think I'm an easy slut"

Now personally I would use one of David DeAngelo's techniques, which is Two steps forward, one step back and build the anicipation.

This has worked good for me in the past.

Two steps forward and one step back means advancing then pulling back a bit.

Next time your sitting on the couch try this. Hold her hand for a bit then let go, lean back and keep talking.

Then after a few minutes kiss her for a bit, pull back and keep talking.

Keep advancing this way and let me know how it works.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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