"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So last saturday I took this girl to the freshman formal and we danced, made out, and cuddled. Now we're officially bf/gf situation. I talked w/ her last night and she wants to take this slow and get to know each other more before we move ahead. She liked what happened Saturday night but apparently thinks it was fast. She didn't expect me to take her behind the curtains on the dancefloor and kiss her:D

Also, this girl wanted to sit down at a lounge while we were leaving the club... but it was empty so we were all alone... do you guys think she wanted me to make a move? because i did while we were sitting on the couch

Question is how do I get her to want it more than I do? I'm trying to seduce her more than have it seem like I'm the one wanting all the physical stuff.

No dumb**** answers please.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mind control chip implanted in the back of the right ear should work
 

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she'll grace herself into it just keep doing what you're doing. Just respect her if she says a firm "No!" ie the Rape call.
 

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Just out of curiosity... You're 17 but you went to the Freshman Formal? Are you a freshman, or is she?

Moved to HS...
 

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freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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she's a sophomore and i'm a freshman at the same uni:p

supergigolodj, i straight up asked her if we were bf/gf coz my last relationship was not clear so i had to get **** straightened out first hand... so being exclusive/ not exclusive is out of the question...

i'll keep the second point in mind though... what else you guys got?
 

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Originally posted by Zhen
freshman in college douchebag:p

put that **** back in the don juan discussion this ain't no high school ****
wow

Your getting a b-itch slap for talking to a mod like that, cause thats just stupid.

idiot :rolleyes:
 

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i think mr. debonaire is a *****

apparently i'm the first guy she's kissed and although she's 20, she's never thought of kissing a guy until it's a serious relationship.

it's gonna be fun taking her out of that shell:)
 

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When a girl says "we're moving to fast" I hear "I really like you but I don't want you to think I'm an easy slut"

Now personally I would use one of David DeAngelo's techniques, which is Two steps forward, one step back and build the anicipation.

This has worked good for me in the past.

Two steps forward and one step back means advancing then pulling back a bit.

Next time your sitting on the couch try this. Hold her hand for a bit then let go, lean back and keep talking.

Then after a few minutes kiss her for a bit, pull back and keep talking.

Keep advancing this way and let me know how it works.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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